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Title: The family or the love, which one will you choose? [Print]
Author: Mandymeng    Time: 2010-9-7 15:41
Title: The family or the love, which one will you choose?
From the ancient times, we have the saying that one must choose between loyalty and filial devotion. In the modern times, as the society develops, in our mind, the distance is not an obstacle which cannot be removed, but our parents do not think so. So, when we go out or find a boyfriend or girlfriend who is not in the same province with you will get the opposition from the family. There should be many lovers who are in such a situation. And they do not know how to solve this problem. Raising this topic, just want to help them and me find a better way to deal with such a case.
Author: huicong    Time: 2010-9-7 16:31
It's the problem for me .
Author: Mandymeng    Time: 2010-9-8 13:26
Me too, if you get a wise way, please kindly advise me, thanks a lot. and if i have a better method, i will tell you also. hah
Author: Ivy_Chen    Time: 2010-9-8 14:11
I had the same situation before. But now my parents agrees with my choice. The problem is not the distance but the worry from the family. Especially the parents, they only want you have a happy life no matter your partner is rich or poor. They only hope he/she can treat you well. In my opinion, if you think he/she is the one who you are seekine for the partner then you will try your best to introduce him/her to your parents, make some examples to comfirm that he/she is good, and both of you will take good care of each other and all your family members. Of course, this need to be comfirmed by your family members. It will takes some time, so both of you must be patient. I can say I'm so lucky that I made it.
If you have the same problem pls don't give up, persist that and you will overcome it.
Author: wickers    Time: 2010-9-8 19:27
Take her to your province.
Author: Mandymeng    Time: 2010-9-9 09:56
wickers: Take her to your province.
I guess you are a gentleman, right? or you will say take him to your province, hah
Author: Mandymeng    Time: 2010-9-9 10:30
Ivy_Chen: I had the same situation before. But now my parents agrees with my choice. The problem is not the distance but the worry from the family. Especially t
maybe we are making use of the love and care from our parents. many times, i find that i am a little selfish. we do not consider their feelings and just want to pursue the so-called love. However, there is a saying that "love is blind", so we often do something unbelievable or something that hurt the hearts of our patents though they will forgive us eventually.
Author: wickers    Time: 2010-9-9 16:31
Mandymeng: I guess you are a gentleman, right? or you will say take him to your province, hah
Perfect analysis.
Author: Janewy    Time: 2010-9-12 23:04
Some time ago,I wacthed a movie named "A Time to Love"(<情人结>).I was deeply moved by the love between the actor and the actress.They shared the same difficulty with you,but they chose waiting.
Author: Mandymeng    Time: 2010-9-13 10:19
Yes, I watched this movie acted by Zhao Wei and Lu Yi,right? It is a sentimental and sad love which can only find in the movies, but it encourages me to believe my love. Acturally, I love this movie.
Author: Janewy    Time: 2010-9-13 20:57
I love you all!!! And BE MY VALENTINE!
Author: Mandymeng    Time: 2010-9-14 15:33
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Author: mariesue    Time: 2010-10-22 10:14
i will never give up parents for my love.
after graduating from college, i parted with my beloved boyfriend, because niether of us could make up our mind to leave home. i felt so sorry for us.
but now i am in love with this man who is caring and brilliant as well.
so i will give you this sentence:
if you can fall in love, you can also fall out of love.

but parents should be loved, and never be deserted.
Author: yaping    Time: 2010-11-1 17:31
So difficult to choose. If  it was me I may choose to my family.
Author: O'Bright    Time: 2010-11-1 21:47
Perhaps there has a good way to best of both worlds, I think this is not a problem if the distance is an obstacle, cause In the modern times, there are many high-tech products to shorten the distance between people, moreover the traffic is very developed. If I face this situation I will persuade my family to agree my choice, even though they do not agree and not understand, I will insist on it utill them completely accept.
Author: Ember_li    Time: 2010-11-2 11:21
until now, I will choose my family. I have a deep relationship with my mother and sister.
Author: Robertqian    Time: 2010-12-16 22:59
Young lovers have long time to enjoy life but parents do not have much time to be with you. We should share with them as more as we can when we are young.
Author: sophie10    Time: 2011-1-30 18:40
I do not think it is hard question to answer. definitely, parents is the top choice for me. No matter how much I love some guy, if my parents really can not accept him, i will choose to end up that relationship, well, maybe some of you can not agree with it, but i think nothing can compare with the love between children and their parents(maybe one of the reason is that I did not find the right one to fight for our love). actually, parents have more life experience than us, they experienced the same thing that  we are now facing and know what should be the best choice for the latter life. No matter what, they just wish us live a better lives. I believe what confusing us at the present time is not is big deal when we look back at old age and we will be grateful for our parents' advice.
Author: highfive    Time: 2011-1-31 22:22
I choose me, but not on a selfish stance.
family and love are companies, but the most important is to avoid losing ourselves in family life or love life.  so I dont take a particular side concerning the two.  

families are one and only, but they cannot be with you for the second half of your life.   your beloved maybe the one for you to spend the rest of life with but they could change their mind and choose another person.
Author: larrywinner    Time: 2011-2-17 19:16
It is easy to choose, no pain no gains.
Author: hengryzhu    Time: 2011-2-26 22:12
the question is olny found in our country,in the modern times ,it is not happened in developed country.our parents 's idea have not keep up the development of times.
Author: SharonYin    Time: 2011-4-1 14:17
If it must be choosed , I will choose my family. I believe my parents love me and what they want just I can get happiness.They have experienc, and they know what is my match. Maybe just now I like someone, time goes by, I will found he is not my shoes. The parents will not hurt you, if you insist you must go with someone, they can understand at last, the premise is the guy really be worthy of trusting. I don't stand departing from my parents because of a man. Now I live in another city without my husband, but I am very happy, because he love me , his parents and mine love me. Having parents love and support we will go to the end.
Author: Frodo    Time: 2011-5-7 18:14
i  lose the relationship of my ex-girlfriend,cuz we are not the same province .i am confused her parents agree us together when they first see me .but she told me her parents don.t agree two months ago ,i  persuade her several times 。her heart is so cold i can't melt
Author: kinzhang    Time: 2011-5-9 01:23
family ,undoubted...nothing si more vital for me but to be with family ,someone always find out the cherished thing after do something wrong ,try to think a little  while ,who always took cared of you and be with you so long when you from a kid to a adult
Author: ScorchingSun    Time: 2011-5-9 21:58
Family should be filled with love,or it's nothing but a house filled with strangers.
Author: pheidippides    Time: 2011-7-15 17:09
In my opinion, it depends on situation.If you love your family
better than your BF or GF, you should depart him or her.
If you love your BF or GF better than your family. You should keep love until the end.To be honest ,it is difficult to make a decision.
Author: Raphael    Time: 2011-7-15 22:07
family family family ...no more love
Author: freddy24    Time: 2011-7-19 19:59
If you get marry with your GF\BF, then you are a family now!
Author: moonhunglee    Time: 2011-9-26 17:11
You need to ask yourself ,Why you go out of your home town to find a boyfriend or girlfriend ? Many people
have to do so for they are working in the same city , if you move to other city that your partner are working in just for love,  you need to be very familiar with her(him) ,and you need to think about if it deserves,  if your family oppose you,
you need to ask why they oppose you , when you get all the
informations , it is upon your self to make a decision, no body can help you.



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