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I don't know how to tell the whole story correctly and precisely without mixing any subjectivity in.It's too hard.
Today I hanged out with one colleague who lives with me and we have another two roommates.From the first day of living together,it's very peaceful and happy totally,which makes me feel we are bound to having this relationship kept perfect.
Perhapes it's a beautiful mistake.We did have some different opinions today when we are out.but I don't take it seriously.After we came back to our dormitory,one of our own roommate came back to.After a while,I entered the washroom and heard the conversation between them.She told our roommate the thing had happened and askd hers opinions in a loudly voice,the roommate answerd that something like“You are completely different with her".Yes,she is right,we have different character and personality,and we treat the same thing in opposite way sometimes.
Maybe she had knew I were in the washroom or not,I am not sure about that.In my opinion,I don't think I get hurted because of the content of their conversation.The reason is I really care what they did,and I dislike being talked or criticized in my absence by someone sharing the same roof or I thought we are close.If she talkd about it in my face,I would make explanation for my behavior or what I think in my mind.Now I just can't control myself to think about that maybe they will do the same dialogue again and again in the future..For them,it's sharing,but not for me.
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- Reply samanthe
- Hi girl, don't let this little thing infulence your mood, let it gone, you even can't remember it a few days later. our energy is limited, which should be used to cherish the wonderful things.
Pay attention to the people you really care about; and ignore those people who are nothing to you.
- Reply sunnyv
- A true and trusted friend would not criticize you behind your back.
A true friend would talk bad in your face and talk good about you behind your back. Yes, indeed you have learnt a lesson about friendships. However, you do not have to be so frustrated about the whole thing. It is not your fault and you are not to blame. She is the loser.
Whenever a friendly relationship reaches a certain level, there would be bound to be some misunderstandings. Clearly, your friend have some personality problems. Perhaps you have trusted her too much and she feels you would stick with her even if she talks behind your back. May be she is testing her value and position in your heart. Anyway, what she said seem not to be particularly damaging, so it is in your interest to forgive her. See yourself as more confident than her. These problems cannot be avoided in friendships. Perhaps you can find a chance to let her know indirectly that if there is anything she is unhappy about you, she can talk to your and you could explain your mind to her. Even if she continues these unpleasant gossip, just tolerate her for friendship's sake. There would be times when she is very friendly and times when she is confrontational. It is tolerance which keeps friendship alive.
- Reply sunnyv
- P.S. You wrote your story well but you have put everything into one big paragraph. It would be much more comfortable to read if you break it into 2 or 3 paragraphs like this;
I don't know how to tell the whole story correctly and precisely without mixing any subjectivity in. It's too hard .
Today, I hanged out with one colleague who lives with me and we have another two roommates. From the first day of living together, it's very peaceful and happy totally, which makes me feel we are bound to having this relationship kept perfect. Perhaps it's a beautiful mistake. We had some different opinions today when we are out, but I don't take it seriously.
After we came back to our dormitory,one of our own roommate came back too. After a while, I entered the washroom and heard the conversation between them. She told our roommate the thing had happened and asked hers opinion in a loudly voice, the roommate answered that something like “You are completely different with her". Yes,she is right,we have different character and personality, and we treat the same thing in opposite way sometimes. Maybe she had knew I were in the washroom or not, I am not sure about that.
In my opinion, I don't think I get hurt because of the content of their conversation. The reason is I really care what they did, and I dislike being talked or criticized in my absence by someone sharing the same roof or I thought we are close. If she talked about it in my face, I would make explanation for my behavior or what I think in my mind. Now I just can't control myself to think about that maybe they will do the same dialogue again and again in the future. For them,it's sharing,but not for me.
- Reply LynnHsu
- Sorry for my late replay and thanks for your comment.I had a face-to face-conversation with my colleagues after reading your guys comments and we made the misunderstanding clear, so I feel better now.
samanthe: Hi girl, don't let this little thing infulence your mood, let it gone, you even can't remember it a few days later. our energy is limited, which shoul ...
- Reply LynnHsu
- Hi~sun.I had break my article into some small paregraphts before I posted it,but it didn't work out well. I suppose there are some problems while posting a topic in smartphone.
sunnyv: P.S. You wrote your story well but you have put everything into one big paragraph. It would be much more comfortable to read if you break it into 2 or ...
- Reply LynnHsu
- Hi~sun.I had break my article into some small paregraphts before I posted it,but it didn't work out well. I suppose there are some problems while posting a topic in smartphone.
sunnyv: P.S. You wrote your story well but you have put everything into one big paragraph. It would be much more comfortable to read if you break it into 2 or ...
- Reply LynnHsu
- Thanks for your nice comments and sorry for my late replay.
sunnyv: A true and trusted friend would not criticize you behind your back.
A true friend would talk bad in your face and talk good about you behind your bac ...
I can't agree more about "Whenever a friendly relationship reaches a certain level,there would be bound to be some misunderstandings."It is very right.
When I talked straight with my colleagues about this stuff.Have to say they wrere a little surprise at my reaction for their conversation, cos they think it's just a sharing time not talking bad about somenoe.And they knew I were in bathroom,in their words, they would lower their voices if they were really saying some bad comments about me.Anyway,I feel better after our face-to-face talking,and indeed it is a lesson,maybe quite different from what I think before.
