Sometimes we make confusions and do not know why we are doing something that we resisted to do as we swore to the god before. And we do that firmly. For examply, a lie to someone who believes you greatly and a pile of bad words to your family. However, these are something done conciously and clearly and it is indeed a misery when you look back after you have done it.
Truth & Lie
I worked as a customer support in a trading company where the so-called successful after-sale service is highly emphasized. I mean we need to think of many tricky ideas and "persuade" our customers to accept our service while that is hardly acceptable among most of Chinese. For example, a customer complained about the long shipment, we needed to emphasize the shipping policy in our company which would take 3-7 business days while we state that we are local business. But that is not! And the shipping may take longer. Another example, a customer, showing off his love for his girlfriend, purchased a product from our store and held excitement to wait for the delivery of the product and contacted me for further confirmation that the product was in good condition. As a customer support who wanted to keep sales, I had to ensure the quality of the product for him while my heart was bleeding and I felt so sad. I did not want to lie to him but I had to at that time. For one moment, I wanted to keep their email and wrote to them my apologies for lying to them. I dared not to and I did not know how to start. That seemed a silly thing to do so and a hard thing too because I am still working in this company. But luckily, I was appoved to transfer to purchasing department after I made a clean breast of my feelings to my boss.
Love & Hate
I am very sorry now for I have spoken some bad words to my parents without considering how they thought. Just as what my brother told me, they are my parents and how they would do something bad to us. But I just spoke with great anger and no consideration which I thought had hurt them greatly. My father earnestly hope that I could find a job in government departments. But as you may know, it is an accident with little chances: one in a million maybe. Besides, I really do not want to work there and I do not possess the desires and abilities to work there. However, they pushed me again and again, their words like floods striking me again and again and pushing my mind into mad existence and dragging me into some condition where I found myself not understood while nobody ever wanted to listen to me. I had my dreams to pursue and I had my career to do. I HATE THEM, I have to say so at that time. They are my parents, the most beloved ones in the world, and they should understand me and know how I feel. That is the way to love me. So losing temper, I said bad words to them loudly, claiming that they did not understand me and they just wanted me to act as their weapons and their tools to gain honors from neighbors.
But luckily, after a talk with my brother and my parents, we are reconciled right now. And I just still felt sad for my bad words without considering my parents' feelings and cares for me.