People live in the present

For someone it’s so easy to find a boyfriend or a girlfriend because they live in the present, if the relationship can't continue, they say good-bye with no regret.

Certainly, they will experience the feeling of pain, but they are growing from the life experience or the lesson they’ve learned from the past.

They are still waiting with high expectation for the romantic story happen if one day they meet someone who fits them the most.

The sensitive ones

For others, some are very sensitive with cautious, once the relationship was broken; they carry it on for years without getting over of it.

They stuck on bad thoughts, they are so afraid of starting a new relationship because they can’t accept the reality if the bad things happen to them again, they don’t wanna experience the feeling of being hurt.

Story of James

Someone even getting worse, eventually, they find a new partner, they carry on the bad experience and pass onto the new one.

James divorced with his drunken wife and lost half property, he was sad and has suffered tremendous mental illness. Then he’s no longer trust women, on his mind, women are bad.

However, from his inner heart, James is till eager to find a proper one, but he has lost the ability to give love and care to a woman.

He works hard, he doesn’t like to spend money on a woman as think that’s a waste, even he doesn’t like to spend time with a woman because he only trusts his work, which brings him happiness and security, that’s what he learned from the experience with his ex-wife.

Story of Catherine

Aussie lady, Catherine works extremely hard, unfortunately, she lost half property from divorcing with her ex-husband.

Since then, she doesn’t trust any man except her dogs. She sleeps with dogs, she has been spending a fortune buying dog food, a pair of sunglasses, nice clothes, and paying for dog training courses. Dogs are her true lovers.

You might think she must be a lovely lady who treats animals in such a nice way, actually, she doesn’t trust human being at all, especially men as she’s carrying on the past forever with her, she can never get over it. Men are bad, do not trust them.

Waiting for true love

Both of them are waiting for true love happen, but none of them would like to show others true feeling with trustworthy, they shield themselves in the shells.  

That would be difficult, if they don’t change their attitude, good luck will hardly come to them.

Please get out of your past; just regard it as life experience, you can learn from it, but please don't stick with it forever. You really need to focus on the future and live in the moment.

It’s very unfair if you treat the one you like by using the way you dealt with your ex from past bad experience you’ve got, no one will really enjoy it.

Give the one you like with your warm heart and kindness, then you will get what you want.

Please remember the more you give, the more you receive.

middle-aged western guys with Asian ladies

Suddenly, I realized why quite a lot of middle-aged western guys like Asian ladies as with Asians, most of them don’t have past story, they regard it as a brand new fresh experience which is just like fall in love with someone in their teenager, and they give heart and care to the dreamed one.

Nice Chinese and Lovely Aussies

Actually, there are always nice ones no matter Aussies or Asians, as long as you find someone who fits you the most, that’s the main thing.

Just a few days ago, one of my readers made a comment for one of my traveling photos regarding how wonderful travel experience he had in China:“99.9 % of people that I've met, have been wonderful and helpful in China."you can see the comments at article: bye, 2016, part 1.

However, probably most Chinese people can’t tell in such a nice way how others treat them in China: "They are rude; they are nasty" some might say that.

One Chinese friend told me: “Aussies are so nice, one day, when I lost in the middle of nowhere, I couldn’t speak English properly, one guy spent hours help me finding my way home.”

Whereas in one Aussie lady’s eyes, I’ve heard a completely different story: “Those middle-aged Aussie women are nasty bitches, men are dirty pigs, and I do not trust them at all."

Probably that’s the Childhood bad experience she gained from the divorce her Mum and Dad as she considers Asians are nice.