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I’m always thinking about how much we can bear a deep hurt from our family.
I had been facing my parents quarrelling once in three days, fighting in five days during my whole childhood. So, when I finally got chance to study in another city and no need to face their bad relationship, I was happy and relieved.
The childhood shadow that my parents bring to me still influences my life. I am scared to hear loud noise. I steer away from fighting scene, or any other situations that many people crowded.
My mom and papa fought with each other once again, it was happened several days ago. I found it until my mom didn’t want to talk to anybody anymore. My father complained that my mom triggered his bottom line……
Tragedy, when it comes to two different people in different values, it would never work well even though you put them together forcibly. Hope they would get along with each other, only miracle can help.
All in all, my personal story happened in my parents’ whole life, it is a direct reason why up till now, I’m still single and no expectation and confidence on a happy marriage.
I’m a right example that is lack of safety on family relationship, hope more and more couples or those who will become couples in the near future, when you are ready to build up a family, please get ready to create a peaceful and healthy home for your children.
Post comment Comment (2 replies)
- Reply Juliezhang
- I am sorry about your family story. It is true that domestic violence will inflence one's life. It is uneasy for you to live in such a family full of quarrels.I hate these quarrels too. Because I live in faimly as yours. my grandparents always argue against each other for the minor matters. they both have a strong charater and they are stubborn。It does't matter that he or she wins. It is meanfulless ,in my view, it will hurt feelings on the contrary. I always act as a peacemaker. But it never does work. maybe this is about charater. what I should do is to be a good person with a nice temper. and to be kind to one who I know of and care about. you are cautious about marrige and the relationships. you are afraid to face the same marrige as your parents.just find the one whoes charater and temper is close to yours. someone who can understand and respect you.Hope you good luck!!!
- Reply teadrinking
- The background of family impacts a lot on kids. Those grow under the care of parents usually act gently and warmly to deal with people. They would be more positive and open to people. Unfortunately, those who suffered violence from parents directly or indirectly, more or less, behave more negatively. You use the example to tell us the importance of building a harmonious family. It does be vital for kids.
The past is gone and can not changed. You can change yourself though it is difficult. We cannot let the bad memory ruin our future. At least we can try making it better than it was before. So, cheer up. Get rid of the mess in your mind, embrace the future. Then you are with heart to embrace everything around. Probably one day, the marriage hits you. Just be ready for that.
Good luck.
