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Mother and daughter in law
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They are not bad persons, they are good mother or daughter alone, but when they two became mother and daughter in law, they are not that good from the other's point.
SHE is good at baby sitting. Among the children SHE has taken care of, some are from the rich , some are from the influential, and some are with sickness getting better under her care. SHE is not doing it for living, SHE just loves kids, SHE is such a nice person that people will leave their kid to her. Who will be the luckiest girl to be her daughter in law? A smart and sophiticated girl! SHE looked so satisfied when showing the precious presents her daughter in law bought for her, as if they were born as daugter and mother. People were all admiring and happy for her. But the mood became worse and worse after several induced abortions and a long time infertility of the young lady.SHE was sad, but even hurt when the young lady thought SHE was getting cold to her and became even colder in return. After the young lady was pregnant, she was like a frozen daughter in law.The new born baby should have been a joint between them, but the young lady meant to cut off the connection. SHE was not allowed to take care of the baby, any careless words of her will be regarded as offence . Even when SHE just went to see the baby, the young lady would looked black-faced, and did not say a single word to her. She was depressed, What's wrong with her at all?
SHE was living with her mother in law. SHE used to think highly of the old lady and praised her much before her friends and relatives.SHE felt lucky for herself and disgusted when others complained their mother in law.But things changed since the first quarrel about the kid raising.From the eye of the old lady, the kid is hers. Any punishment to the child is a big offence to her.SHE chose to keep silent, and leave this tough communicating task to her husband.This did work for a long time untill the second dauther in law came to this family. This second one was what the old lady likes- who was tall, from their hometown, with wealthy parents. Again, The kid got rude, ignoring his dad's comforts. when his Dad got mad, the old lady appeared, and it became a fight between the man and his old mother.SHE could only choose silence. But it did not work this time, from their quarrel, she heard her name from the old lady's mouth.She complained that SHE seldom talked to her, she thought SHE said somthing bad behind her. She was astonished, Any of her business?
What is happening between the young and old ladies? If there is no right or wrong between the two paries, is it just because you are too close? If there should be a distance between you, what is the safe distance then? Is there a distance that will make you always look good from the other ?
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- Reply loly90
- Well, it seems there is a gap between this daughter and her mother-in-law. they need talk and communication to lessen their misunderstanding. Also i can see the problem about trust. This daughter should trust her mother-in-law, old people knows how to take care of baby. Old people have rich experience. Besides, this old lady should know that baby's mother is very important to the baby. Before getting know each other well, people are always polite to others and they can get along well with each other, but after they are familiar to each other, they act naturally, making people have a wrong illusion that they are different from their past. Since we live together, we cannot avoid frictions and conflicts, just try our best to understand others and avoid unhappy things.
