When talking about maturity, you may say that when people get older and older, they will definitely be mature. Many people pretend to be mature, but actually they are not. However, maturity is not measured by age, for they may have kids' minds on something. It's measured by the experiences you have.

      I've seen many young students act as adults. They always do what adults do in front of other people. Maturity is not presented just by appearance. Some boys try to learn how to smoke like adults do. They use two fingers hold the cigarette elegantly, but they just give other people the opposite kind of feeling. They pretend to be mature, that is exactly the action of immaturity. On the other hand, many young girls try to ware that kind of clothes to let others think she is older than her age. And the young face was covers with various cosmetics. It looks like they are going to work or to meet someone. They think that they know everything and then they pretend. Young people who fall in love in early ages may have a kind of thinking that they are mature enough to take care of others. They think the girl or the the boy next to me is the prove of saying so. Day and night they stuck to each other and tell him or her how much she or he loves them. Flowers, presents, surprises come straight toward them, then moving tears following. Actually, the mature love is not for showing off. It's the true feeling that coming to your heart no matter how others think of it.

There is no standards to judge a man whether he is mature or not. But there're really some criteria to think about whether he is a mature person to make a solution like this. If he is always playing without thinking of what he is doing, he is immature. If a man cannot control his temper when having some frictions with others, he is immature. Getting angry is such a common emotion, but the point is how to deal with this situation. I don't mean that he should follow other people's decisions all the time, but to think about it for a while and communicate with them properly. That is to say, he can deal with difficulties however hard they are. If a man is always complaining about life or the misfortune he has countered, he is immature. A mature person will not spend time on complaining, but to confront with what comes next. If a man pursues pride and wants others admire him, he is immature. I know a lot of things people usually do. He may ask for what he needs before the thing really happened to him. For example, before the boy have a date with a girl, he made a phone call to his friend to phone back to him later talking something unreal to show how rich he is or how elegant he is. The real mature person will not act like that, for he knows the real is the best. He doesn't want to make trouble for future. If a man chase for romantic love, he is immature. Fairy tales will not happen in the real world especially happen to ordinary person like you and me. The wonderful falling in love at the first sight is really romantic. After years of getting together, you will finally feel that you cannot believe in it. If a man is narrow-minded, he is immature. He doesn't understand other people. He just think in his own way.

A real mature man has the quality of being reliable, responsible. He admits both the brightness of life and the darkness of life, and then bare it. He will accept the fact that advantages and disadvantages exist in one thing. He know how to deal with difficulties and communicate with others. He always help people who needs help, for he know maybe someday he needs their help. He knows there are many ways to get what he wants. Not fight with people. He doesn't get angry easily, for he knows life is too short to enjoy. Comparison is a bad habit, for doing so can make people lose their balance. He will not give his own another way to escape from the fact. What he thinks is just do it.

It is a procedure to be mature, not the result of one day or two. When you look back, you will find what you have done before is really stupid. That is the time you become mature.