By which way do you prefer to meet your Mr./Ms. Right?  Unexpected, toe-cured exciting chance-meet or well-arranged, sweatily awkward blinddate?  The answer is obvious if you have options. However, in most cases you simply don't.

Still I never imagined that one day J would fell pray as a fresh, raw meat to the matchmaking lionesses, namely me. Ok, perhaps it is not fair to call myself as matchmaking lionesses. It is just the second time I played this part---and I never really enjoyed it. I just couldn’t resist my auntie’s implorations. My auntie could be really persuasive when her son was involved, you know. To me J doesn't need any help with girls. Come on, it's J we are talking about. He is a cheerful, outgoing and ambitious young fellow, plus, he has good education, well-connected friends, and a promising career. All in all, he is, if even not the top selection, still considered a decent catch on the marriage mart. However, after three failed relationships---even it’s him who got cold feet---her mother doesn't have many faith left in him. And she turned me for help. I don’t see any urgency here, after all J is only 27 year old. However, you could never reason with a mum in this issue

It seemed to be a good match, but I changed my mind and had to admit that it was a disaster thirty minutes after they met. J was totally not himself and he almost broke all the rules of the blind date. First, he was late. When I offered a reasonable excuse that he was busy at work, he said bluntly that it was his day off. Then, he kept ignoring his date and engaged us in a solo-style communication. His speech is as interesting as usual, yet totally not proper to impress a girl you just met. From the expression on S’s face, I could tell she stayed there only to be polite.  With my hints, J finally made moves, however the damage was already done and beyond any help to recover.

After it’s over, I asked him what the hell was going on. He said he was nervous! In fact, he was quite impressed like being hit by the lightening, but he didn’t know how to make right approach. After all it was his first time he met a girl this way and he just didn't know how to behave himself. Perhaps in another space, and in another time, if they could meet by chance, the result might be different. However, never has there been a matchmaker, however experienced, who played the part of god.