朋友的境界

The Stages of Friendship

朋友的境界
In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon1 when all that was left was the ugly black one.

In first grade2 your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary3 halls.

In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully4.
In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus.

In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-doing with the dork of the class.5

In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.

In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to your new crush6, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.

In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had forgotten about.

In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.

In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went with you to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.7

In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.

In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded,8 consoled9 you when you broke up with your significant other and found you a date to the prom.10

In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college, assured you that you would get into that college, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go.

At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.

The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you back in the good mood when you got into trouble. Helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents. Assured you that now that your significant other were back together, you could make it through anything. Helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry11 eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind. And finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to come over and send you off with a hug, a lot of memories and reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years. But most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.

Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices. Holds your hand when you're scared. Helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you. Thinks of you at times when you are not there. Reminds you of what you have forgotten. Helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer. Stays with you so that you have confidence. Goes out of their way to make time for you.12 Helps you clear up your mistakes. Helps you deal with pressure from others. Smiles for you when they are sad. Helps you become a better person. However most importantly loves you!

1. crayon/#krei2n/: 蜡笔。
2.在美国，小学和中学总共分为十二个年级，十二年级相当于中国的高三。
3. scary: 骇人的。
4. bully: 恃强凌弱者，恶霸。
5. 在体操馆里的方形舞练习时中愿意和你交换舞伴，使你能够避免老跟班上的某个呆子跳。square dance: （四对男女跳的）方形舞；
do-si-do: 方形舞中男女舞伴背对背互换位置的舞步；be stuck with: 无法摆脱；dork: 呆子。
6. crush: 热恋的对象。
7.所以你不会是那儿的惟一的新生。
8. 说服你的父母不要把你关在家里。
9. console: 安慰。
10. prom: 班级舞会。
11. blurry: 模糊的。
12. go out of one's way: 特意地，不怕麻烦地；make time for:腾出时间。