近日，美国著名女校维斯理学院（Wellesley College）邀请尼日利亚女作家奇玛曼达·恩戈兹·阿迪契（Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie）在2015年毕业典礼上发表演讲。阿迪契与即将踏入社会的女生们分享了她对女权主义的独到见解和一些人生建议，她说，“永远不要因为‘你是个女人’而去做什么或放弃什么。”
All over the world, girls are raised to make themselves likeable, to twist themselves into shapes that suit other people. Please do not twist yourself into shapes to please. Don't do it.
If someone likes that version of you, that version of you that is false and holds back, then they actually just like that twisted shape, and not you. And the world is such a gloriously multifaceted, diverse place that there are people in the world who will like you, the real you as you are.
Teach your students to see that vulnerability is a HUMAN rather than a FEMALE trait. Commission magazine articles that teach men HOW TO KEEP A WOMAN HAPPY. Because there are already too many articles that tell women how to keep a man happy.
I don't speak to provoke. I speak because our time on earth is short, and each moment that we are not our truest selves, each moment we pretend to be what we are not, each moment we say what we do not mean because we imagine that is what somebody want us to say, then we are wasting our time on earth. I don't mean to sound precious, but please don't waste your time on earth.
There are certain things my mother believes a person should do for the simple reason that sad person "is a woman". Such as occasionally nod and smile, even when smiling is the last thing one wants to do. Such as strategically give in to certain arguments, especially when arguing with a non-female. Such as get married and have children. I can think of fairly good reasons for doing any of these. But "because you are a woman" is not one of them. Never ever accept "because you are a woman" as a reason for doing or not doing anything.
Now girls are often raised to see love only as giving. Women are praised for their love when that love is an act of giving. But to love is to give AND to take. Please love by giving and by taking. Give and be given. Dare to take.