Probably it was out of control as I shouted at a man in front of colleagues at the office which I have never done things like that in my life.

After lunch, I was working at the computer helping a consultant Aussie lady fixing profit and loss balance sheet.

At that moment, there’s voice from a Singapore man, “Sweetolive; it was very rude you left the kitchen at lunch!!!!”

I was concentrating on work without noticing him, “Hang on...”After a while, I realized what he’s talking about.

If he’s kidding, that’s all right, but I have already got upset with the man as I wrote in the blog: Value and Rapport.

I was trying hard to ignore him without telling his bad manner to someone else as I was gonna focus on positive things for being a happier person.

Sometimes you just wanna do a good job and go home, but someone won’t happy about that, they think they are superior and try to control you.

The man has kept telling my behavior was either rude or wrong for many times with no reasons.

That’s what happened at lunch; I went to the company kitchen, a long table was full of colleagues, there was only one seat left; meanwhile, an Aussie young man came in.

He was very polite,“No worries, you can sit there, I will find the other one.”

I looked at the table, it was very crowded, and then I said: “No, no, you sit, I can have lunch in the office.” And then I left.

I can’t get it what’s wrong with me? At the eyes of that Singapore man, I was rude no matter what I was doing.

If he treats everyone like that, I would not say anything, but I doubt he would say the same words to a boss, a manager or other colleagues, just because I am new to the company?

I was not happy and couldn’t help shouting at him in the office:“This is Australia, a multi-cultural country, you should respect the different culture, and everyone has the freedom to do what she likes.”

The man didn’t expect my loud voice, after a while, I continued:“There’s nothing wrong or correct, in this country is wrong, in another country is correct, you can’t use your value and standard to request people to do what you like, and that is very rude.”

“Sweetolive, but I said that in a polite way.”

What? I was gonna tell him, no matter how soft voice you were using, if you said negative words to a new staff, that was very rude, do you understand?

The man didn’t reply me as he would not like the boss to hear the arguments.

Then I told myself: “Calm down, calm down.”

I  wanna tell him again: “If you consider yourself as a CPA or a team leader, please focus on the big picture and take responsibilities, then people will respect you, that’s what my previous manager did.”

No one would like to listen to a person who only cares about trivial things without knowing how to do a proper job at all.

If someone has passion teach people how to be a better person, then please change the career and find the right place, a person has the title in accounting doesn’t mean he's specialised in life coach because he can’t be everything.