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Everyone need at less one friend for the reason that no one can defeat loneliness by himself. Everyone`s heart longs for being touched. There are different kinds of friends we have. Some friends are the ones that we just live together, like our roommates or classmates. Somefriends are the ones that we could do many things toghther and care each other. Some friends are the people whom we can tell our feeling. Sometimes even though all your friends are around you, you stiil feel lonely. Because the crowd don`t know what you are thinking. They look at your smile and consider that you are delightful. But in fact you are not, what they look is just your disguise. Sometimes even thought you tell your feeling, you still feel helpless. A boyfriend or a girlfriend is necessary for most people. But some one is afraid of falling in love a girl or a boy since the scars in thier hearts haven`t healed. If you have known your love will end one day, would you start it ? It`s remarkably difficult question to answer. No matter what your answer is, it is reasonable. I hope someone really know me. Whether she is my girlfriend or not is not the point.
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- Reply sunnyv
- Good definition of friends. That is what I have been thinking for long time and you said it out.
Without friendship, love and affection life would be cold and dark. We tend to be selfish beings, and so finding a way to focus outward instead of inward is necessary. It is through friendships that we do this.
Everyone needs friends for different reasons. Maybe you need friends so that you are not alone in the evenings and nights, and it is during these times you start thinking negative thoughts. Maybe your neighbor needs friends so that they have someone to rely on during emergencies. We all need companionship, love, and acceptance, and that is why friends, and the friendships are so important.
Some of us don't have much friends. Some find it hard to make friends because they cannot trust other people or they are afraid of rejection. Some worry about over reliance on friends and they lose their own sense and judgement. Some are overly needy and becomes a burden for others.
Friends sometimes tell us lies, so somebody asked me, how many times can you accept lies from a friends? I said depending on the nature of the lies but I can only accept one or two lies if it is not designed to hurt me. “Trust is like a vase.. once it's broken, though you can fix it the vase will never be same again.”
Selfishness or self protection is natural. Quite a lot of people are worried that friends would become more successful than themselves so they feed them the wrong advice and also hide good things from them so that they can't improve their lives. On the surface some friends are very nice, but in fact they are full of lies and taking advantage of friendships. Most people have tasted sell-outs or have been sabotaged by friends. We have to be careful friendships sometimes.
There are also dangers in friendships. People could exploit friendships for their own benefit. I remember once in work, I wanted to make a suggestion to boss about improvement in the work flow. My friend told me don't do it, otherwise boss may think I am interfering with boss decisions. OK I did not make the decision but a week later, my friend stole my idea and make the same suggestion to the boss. He was later promoted and got a salary increase just because of this.
When we have friends we have a huge support system, support is as important as oxygen in some cases. It is our support systems that get us through tough times, whether those tough times are emotional, financial, physical crises. Sometimes friends can help where blood relatives can't. There are things you can't tell your relatives.
The whole meaning of this is that, we need friends, even though they sometimes hurt us. Friendship is an art and involves life long learning.
- Reply 蓝色飞人
- Your comment is really worthy and helpful, which makes my mind clearer. Thank you, my friends.
- Reply rich
- sunnyv: Good definition of friends. That is what I have been thinking for long time and you said it out.very impressive! a wonderful analysis. yes we all need friends and friendships. no one would say i can live well without any form of friendship. humans are social animals, which means without company our spiritual life would not be so sound as it should be.
Without friendship, love and affection life would be
however, how many people are genuinely developing or taking care of friendships or truly treasure friendships. we have seen too many cases where friendships are taken advantaged of or even abused.
as you said, there're many layers of friendships. it largely depends on your character, your
personal needs, tastes, and values. it's natural. however, it all takes devotion and energy and honesty, like anything else in life. the flower of friendship may wither. even if we realize this, it would be hard to actually do it well, let alone there's so much misunderstanding between people. and it could occur anytime.
i just cannot agree with you more on this point: friendship is an art and involves life long learning.
