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Do You Mind Your Wife Was Not A Virgin?
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Virgin is a sensitive topic in a traditional country especially in China. I am a traditional male and a Christian. There are many lovers in our campus, and today we find them everywhere we look. I don't know what their attitude is about the virgin.
Firstly, we should give a definition to virgin. In a large sense, virgin is a female who had no sexual intercourse. I once heard that,'' The God create the virgins, and the male create the women." In my opinion, this is a insult for women. About this issue, i have a little puzzle. I can not imagine that my wife is not a virgin and what i want to do. Maybe, i want to craze. Secondly, with my own eyes, how many girls are cheated by the bad boys who are not reponsible for the pathetic girls. Why do the good girls always love the bad boys? Recently, one of my classmate falls in love with a girl who comes from another college. They lived together for a month and broke up. One week later, they have their new partner again.What a surprise! Maybe i am OUT!
I undoubtedly know this is an opening society, and we need to open up,but the person who is so opening that i can not receive it. There is not only about the personal character, but also the society morality. Female, in the degenerated society should protect themselves well and learn to love themselves;male should respect the girl whom he is loved and be responsible for her, if you could not give her a shining day in the futrue, you must give her a holy and pure soul.
Finaly, I wish you all who tasting the "sweet grapes" of love a very happy day with your lover.Thank you!
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- Reply Xiaolong
- Well, some men will care are they the first one man to the women, but some other men will care are they the last one man to the women. Do you think after marriage chastity-keeping is more important than sex before marriage?
- Reply rich
- You raised a controversial topic. traditionally it is one of the virtues of girls to remain a virgin until she is married to a man. however, things have changed so much that it seems not easy to find and finally get married to a maiden. in every society, no matter how open and liberal, there're always people who firmly stick to the traditon. but the general trend is that people are becoming more and more tolerant. love-making before marriage is getting acceptable to many people. the point is that it is a personal issue, something that cannot be forced. as i see it, being a girl, you have to be cautious before taking this step. after all, there's some risk of getting pregnant and then being dumped. on the other hand, the day of the wedding will become more attractive and meaningful, not just a formality.
- Reply Kimi011812
- Hey, Jimmy, Fankly speaking, what will u do if u have a many years' romance relationship with ur love girl before getting merried?
- Reply sunnyv
- First, ask yourself, which girl would you choose to spend the rest of your life with;
A girl who you love, sincere, can be trusted and not intentionally promiscuous, but she had intimate relations with a former boyfriend through an unsuccessful romantic relationship.
Another girl who never had any intimate relationships but you know she is not the type of girl you have deep love for and you doubt if you can spend your life with.
I am quite certain you would rather choose the former.
Furthermore, this is 2012 not 1952. How many girls are still virgins? During my parent's time, just holding hands can be seen as unforgivable, let alone kiss or whatever. Girls nowadays, don't dare to claim that they are virigns and you already know why. Perhaps you may see me a liberal minded foreigner, but I can tell you that it is the same in many countries including China.
Don't be too concerned about her past, everyone have their own hard to explain experience. If she is the one you love, just drop and past and look to the future as a pair. Cheers.
- Reply Jamesonhao
- Yes, coundn't agree more with above you guys' replies. Responsibility is on the top in a relationship, but not sex.
- Reply Jimmy621209
- Wow, there are many things are beyond our control. This article just show my view of the virgin. In my part, after marriage chastity-keeping as important as before marriage chastity-keeping.
- Reply Jimmy621209
- rich: You raised a controversial topic. traditionally it is one of the virtues of girls to remain a virgin until she is married to a man. however, things haMy dear teacher Rich, thanks for your attentions. To be a virgin or not to be , this is a right for every girl who is fall in love with a man. This article just show my views for the virgin. No matter how, we must respect the girl and his rights. Maybe, i am too traditional to accept my wife was not a virgin.Yes, i am very favor of your view, girls must be cautious before taking their first step. I am a Christian, i can not accept it but i can stand it.
- Reply Jimmy621209
- Kimi011812: Hey, Jimmy, Fankly speaking, what will u do if u have a many years' romance relationship with ur love girl before getting merried?Thanks for your reply,Kimi. Firstly, as a responsible male, i must be responsible for the girl whom i loved. If i could not give her a shining day in the futrue, i must give her a holy and pure soul. Before getting merried, i should respect her and take care of her. If i XXOO with her, i must marry her. Hehehe!! We can do anything, but love-making.
- Reply Jimmy621209
- Jamesonhao: Yes, coundn't agree more with above you guys' replies. Responsibility is on the top in a relationship, but not sex.I just say, if we could not give her a shining day in the futrue, we must give her a holy and pure soul.Responsibility is very important for every responsible man, and girls should pay more attention to take the first step.Thanks for your reply!
- Reply Jimmy621209
- sunnyv: First, ask yourself, which girl would you choose to spend the rest of your life with;Year, maybe i would choose the former whom you said. I could not accept my wife was not a virgin but i could tolerate her and respect her. I should not pay more attention to hers past, but i must focus on the future of her.
A girl who you love, sincere, can be trusted and not intentiona
To be a virgin not to be, it is hers right of the girls, i can not prevent them, but i must respect them. Maybe, in the future, my wife will not a virgin, if i love her, i will take care of her well.Deep in my heart, i will still mind. At that moment, all of things should less improtant but the true love between us. About this topic, i really have a little confused.
In a large sense, we should not deliberately to pursue something ,then lettin go. Thanks for your reply.
- Reply Illion
- Jimmy, I am also a very traditional person. So, I want you to know you have my support. As Rich and Sunnyv said, this is a personal issue. However, I think every girl must be told that First Time to a famale is very very important when she was young. But, there are still have a lot of girls had lost her hymen before heading for the holy church. How pity it is.. Sunnyv, my foreign friend, I can`t agree with you, if I have to choose in the two choice you quoted, I would rather choose the second one. Just think about it, can you imagine the one who you have deep love for but she is not intact and perfect? In other words, she is a second-hand(even three or four or five-second) woman. Can you endure that when you want to kiss her sexy lips and the moment you can`t help remembering this sexy place has touched something disgusted? I don`t want to write more details, after all, here is DioEnglish blog. I believe that you power of imagination must still serve you well...
Maybe I will be condemned by you, and even thinking of that I am a superficial or weird person. So, I want to reiterate what I said is merely my personal point. On the subject of this issue, I always perceived that I have a lot to say... But, right here and right now(considering here have some female comrades) I am not going to say more. I just want to share one of my concept about this issue. I can`t bear such kind of girls who had intimate relationship with so many males but still think she is very valuable and even pure. And unfortunately, most of the girls who have lost her hymen around me are have a lot of requirements to her future husband. For instance, "he" is must have a lodging house at least, and better to have a brand car or some savings..
I have confidence I will find a girl who is not only the type of girl I have deep love for but also stiil intact and perfect. If I can`t find such kind of girl, I would prefer spend my life alone..
- Reply Jimmy621209
- Illion: Jimmy, I am also a very traditional person. So, I want you to know you have my support. As Rich and Sunnyv said, this is a personal issue. However, IWow, my dear Illion, this is so long comment for me and thanks for you pay more attention to my article which about this sensitive topic. I could not agree more with your view about the "second-hand women". In my opinion, if the girl lose the ''first time" it means she must marry the man who is XXOO with her, except divorced women. In a sence, the first time as same as the second time, the thirdly time and even more, it is just the different between quantity, but have no different between quality. In my part, if i am xxoo-ing with my dear love wife, at the same time,i am imaging the same situation that she was xxoo-ing with the other male.It is the biggest tragedy in one's life.
As a good girl, she must make a deep consideration when she istaking the first step, on the contray, as a responsible male, if you could not give her a shining day in the futrue, you must give her a holy and pure soul. However, to be a girgin or not to be, it is their right,and nobody can interfere it. On the other hand, a female could love-making with the man who is not her husband, she would bump into the same situation at another day.
Illion, maybe we are out, but the moral dimension would never be out, do you think so? But then again, we must respect the girl whom was not a virgin. As you said,"Most of the girls who have lost her hymen around me are have a lot of requirements to her future husband." Like this kind of women, i can not say any more and just pray for them. Maybe the God could Save and sympathy for her.God bless them!
Finaly,thanks for your reply again! Your sincere friend!
- Reply Illion
- yaping:haha, Yaping. I think you must have gotten the picture, right?
pass away~
But, I want you to know this topic is none of your business, because you are very pure, hehe... I can get the answer from your personal albums...
- Reply yaping
- Illion: haha, Yaping. I think you must have gotten the picture, right?
But, I want you to know this topic is none of your business, because you are very pureWow~ how do u know it?
- Reply loly90
- I also interested in this topic, i'm a traditional girl, and i think boys should be virgins too before getting married.
- Reply Jimmy621209
- loly90: I also interested in this topic, i'm a traditional girl, and i think boys should be virgins too before getting married.Aha, you are a young girl!Maybe, you are too young to understand the responsibility of a responsible male, my younger friend.As a responsible male, he must keep the chastity-keeping before getting married.This just my own opinion. Thanks for you attention.
- Reply Haiena
- There is no such thing as a "second hand girlfriend", if there is, then there should also be to a "dirty second hand boyfriend too." I would vomit thinking about my husband having sex with his previous girl before. I would imagine his dirty satisfied face enjoying sex, his hand so dirty touched another girl everywhere. I would not kiss him because his mouth is dirty because she kissed a girl before. I would not let him touch me because I feel his p.... is so dirty. I would hate him forever for having sex so easily. Girls are possessive. No girl should marry a man like this. My love for this man cannot be true because he does not belong to me. He is just like a dog to me.
