I knew a black guy from Nigerian through my ex-job. I already forgot since when he started sending me texts and asked me out from time to time. Obviously, I knew his 'tricks' of keeping asking me out-wanna me be his girlfriend, cos' I have heard so many stories about how those black people cheated Chinese girls to be their girlfriends or even to be their wives, but I didn't say all of them. I kept turning him down again and again, and to be honest to him about my opnion to him. He was so angry that I compare him with those guys and thought that I insulted him. I didn't mean to do that, but just wanna make everything clear so that he will give up. And I did apologize to him if I did anything offense him.
Later, he almost kept calling me everyday, and chatted me on QQ. Something like miss me, love me and wanna take care of me, blah blah blah....
I cannot deny that I feel a little bit touched by all his caring things after all I haven't dated anyone else for few years and kept closing my heart from others. Girls are very into sweet words from boys huh...it works always I guess. I told him so many times that all we can be just friends and there's no any further we can go. Though he accepted my decision, he still kept trying to turn our friendship into the relationship he wants.
All I want is just be a friend of him and talk like friends, but I failed every time. He kept reminding me of the love he wants from me. I am very confused about my feeling. I did have little feeling on him, but I know it's impossible for him and I to get together. I don't know whether I can trust him or not, and I don't know how I can prove everything that he told me is true. I know he did lie to me about something and that's why I rather choose him as a friend. Friends can be much easier to be honest to each other instead of hiding from each other. It's one of the reasons that I can't choose him. About the other reasons, even more complicated, like culture shock, family opnion, people judgement, etc.
Now, I am really in need of some directions from all of you. What can I do to keep the friendship with him while breaking his hope of getting me as his girlfriend. I don't know how to communicate with him, how to respond to his love, even though I still have doubts on any word he said. Should I really need to stop contacting him?