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Recently I feel pretty insecure about my relationship. The reason might be my lack of self-confidence. We met each other in September 2013. How time flies, we have been together for almost one and a half year---not a short time for nowadays dating relationship. He was a graduate student when I knew him. We fell in love a few days later (because we met in a blind date party). Then he experienced training in Yunnan, graduation, and managed to stay at college to teach. During the year he had accomplished a lot, but I nothing. I still work in the same company when I graduate, and get the same salary. For women, time is cruel. I have to admit that the only thing grow in me is age. I'm afraid we would break up, either my incompetence or for the unreasonably troublesome I bring.
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- Reply shirleyytt2010
- I do not see any problems between you two. If you two truely love each other, why you should break up?
- Reply Tange
- haha, blind dating , fantasy , how to manage your relationship is a big lesson .
good luck , you can overcome it . ...
- Reply sunnyv
- Look here. True love can overcome anything and everything. It is not always that both side have the same level or love or sincerity. In your case, you are certainly willing to give all your love to him, he loves you too, but it looks like he does not have the same level of love. The reason could be he has too many things on hand, not yet ready or he can afford to wait, but unfortunately, girls can't wait and age builds up fast. The problem is that you can't push or press him to commit himself to the relationship because that can cause arguments and misunderstanding. Your concern and worry is quite normal for a girl. Not everything can have an immediate answer or solution. You would be smart to have patience. You don't have much choice but to wait and see how things go.
What you can do now is to understand him and do things which can impress him. You would know what is on his mind in regular talk. When you gather enough information, you can talk to him jokingly or without pressure about his future plans and marriage. Don't be unhappy or pressure him if he has no long term plans for you. You can cultivate those plans. If he has some affection towards you, then it is enough to allow it to grow from there. There is not much you can do because it is not within your control. Don't give yourself too much worry and anxiety. Let things work naturally and peacefully. Your patience will reward you.
- Reply lovingfun
- Before you make that decision, I would like ask you several questions: Do you really love him? If you make that decision, would you regret in later?Why you feel that way, because you love him or you want to another way of life?
What decision you made, we respect your choice, but please don't make haste. Wish you will tide over as quickly as you can.
- Reply ada23
- when the man loves you, he won`t consider your material accumulation first, the first priority is your close relationship. I think you have bear this problem deeply in your heart and what you can do is work hard and let he know you have your goal about your career and hardworking and waiting for the chance to high career rank. Just tell him what you worry and tell him how much you love him, that is all.
Still, best wishes for u !