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Three days' holiday passed, before it was coming, I expected I could enjoy these days staying with my family. however, I had a terribly quarrel with my husband at the last day of the holiday, it made me very depressed and sorrowed, I do not want to say a lot about the reason, because everyone could have a solid reason to say he or she is right, I just want to say when the problem comes, both of the sides should find a way to solve the problem, and reach an agreement, and should not complain the other. Any time, anyone, must face the difficulties, and try to find a way to handle or deal with the problems, during the course, he or she must be optimistic, positive. and the other hand is , the couple should make effort together, if it is just one, not the two, then how to reach an agreement and how to solve the problem?
my 2015 began like this, oh, my god, what does it mean?
Still hope I have a bright and happy 2015!
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- Reply Tange
- it is normal to have quarrel for the ordinary issue. it happens between wife and husband . and it should be end up with laughter . ..
- Reply sunnyv
- Tange, I will wait and see whether you can really handle marital arguments so confidently. See if you can really laugh it over.
Tange: it is normal to have quarrel for the ordinary issue. it happens between wife and husband . and it should be end up with laughter . ..
- Reply sunnyv
- Don't take it so serious. What is it that you two cannot solve? Both of you have decided to stay together for the rest of your lives and you know it won't be easy. Arguments cannot be avoided because everyone has his/her own thinking. Quite often, it is the wife who end this fighting either by explaining, understanding or admitting fault.
Your argument is heated, so don't try to solve it immediately. Have you noticed? No matter how hot the argument is, the next day, the fire dies down. That is why I say time solves all problems.
First, soften yourself. Let your husband know that you don't hate him and don't want to argue. For many couples an argument is a time of heightened emotions. Because it can be difficult to think clearly. Physically distancing yourself can help your emotions to settle. However, never leave without giving an explanation or without agreeing to talk at some later time.
As a man, I can tell you that men need to be the leader of the family. They cannot accept defeat. He has to appear strong. It is hard for him to tell you what is on his mind. Sorry to say that most men are like that.
Hidden thoughts. Your husband may be angry about something you don't know about and he use arguments to vent his anger. Try to find out what he don't like about you in a nice soft way.
He likes you, otherwise he would not marry you. Is it so hard to forgive him? There is still a long way to walk in your lives. Walk it hand in hand together.
- Reply Tange
- in my view , argument is not the worst thing, it provide the chance to let us know other's mind.
sunnyv: Tange, I will wait and see whether you can really handle marital arguments so confidently. See if you can really laugh it over.
the reason why we still quarrel about sth with someone, is we failed to persuade someone to accept my viewpoint.....
sometimes we no need to force someone to accept our views . we should try to listen other 's suggestion ... it maybe be works on dealing couples's arguments ..
- Reply sunnyv
- Hmm.... you got a point there.
Tange: in my view , argument is not the worst thing, it provide the chance to let us know other's mind.
the reason why we still quarrel about sth with some ...
