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Now most people live in apartments, in which we don't know our neighbour in most cases. Everyday when we come out from our own door ,we see all the other doors in the building are close.We don't know who the neighbours are . Someone misses the close relationship of neighbours in the yard at past. I think making friends with your neighbour may be not good experient after I knew one of my neighbours.
Two years ago, a new family moved in the rooms next to mine.They were parents and a boy, as same as my family.We knew each other at the children playing space .We were all excited when we find we are next door .Two boys were very happy.And then,the hostess and I often walked,went shopping ,had dinner together.Everthing was good between us at the beginning. But gradually,I was beset with the close relationship.One day when I was busy with my work,my neighbour knocked at my door . I opend the door ,she came in and sit down at the sofa.She just wanted to chat with me.I didn't expect she would leave after 5 hours!I lost my time.Since that day ,I didn't feel safe in my own room.I were afraid her coming without invitition once again.I really had no free time to chat wth her.After a few months ,I found the worse thing .One day she told me :"Your husband seems coming home very late recently.Is he very busy?" I felt terrible when I realized she can hear our door slam and judge our life.Would she heard us when I quarrel with my husband?Since then ,I speaked in a low voice so as not to be overheard.I felt that I lived next to a detective!
A few days ago,my neighbour moved away.I felt I got free again.
Maybe in this age we don't like too close relationship with other people any more .we need maintainning privacy.
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- Reply lovingfun
- That really happens when neibours intrude your life, though most time , without real intention. Just like a Chinese motto:"The communications of wise people just like a still water, we do communiate in a normal way, not too intimate, nor too far away as strangers." We cannot live by isolating ourselves from outside world, but if we communicate with outside too much also lead dangerous. How to balance them ,just decide by us, for we are different, we have different way to deal with things.
- Reply rowland
- Every coin has two sides. More improtant, it is not that simple to do appropriately. Too much is as bad as too little. Obviously, Your former neighbour does not understand this.
- Reply sunnyv
- You have raised an interesting topic. I was wondering what is the difference between neighbors in my city and other cities. In my city, Hong Kong, people are getting colder and uncaring in recent years. Actually, they don't get any advantage by being cold, reserved and unfriendly. When anything happens in your home, the neighbors are the nearest people who can help. There is a saying; ''At home rely on parents, away from home rely on friends''.
In my place, people are reserved and don't like to talk or make contact with neighbors. In one floor of 12 homes only 2 contact each other. When one family opens their doors, the opposite family would close their door. Most of the families don't know the names of their immediate neighbors and don't even say good morning when they meet. I wonder what is on their minds.
Can our other members here tell us how are your neighbors?
- Reply ada23
- i think your overconcern the situtation. Maybe the way you two treat each other is different. Your neighbor treat you as a close friend and no border between you two. But you want a smart friend who know what the situation they should be. I think the outspoken person is not bad at heart.
- Reply ada23
- i think your overconcern the situtation. Maybe the way you two treat each other is different. Your neighbor treat you as a close friend and no border between you two. But you want a smart friend who know what the situation they should be. I think the outspoken person is not bad at heart.
