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Is it normal to worry about trivial things in life?
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Personally I think, everyone has worries in his life, especially for one who has a different experience. If I'm telling you mine, I might be laughed out loud in nature. For instance, I always worry about growing old, dropping off from the plane when travelling abroad , seeing ghosts, being murdered and so on. I know it is kind of disturbing for thinking about all those, which are really all my inner fears that could hardly be erasered. For me, the only way that could lead to a calm and peaceful mind is to keep busy until no space has been left for thinking at all. You may say it is so funny but also ashame.
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- Reply ada23
- i just have to say if you have something bad or happen by accident, it is your destiny, you have no idea to change the planned routine. Don`t fear or think too much about trivial wrong, just be cautious and enjoy your life.
- Reply sunnyv
- You told us about your fears, concern and worries. Actually, what is wrong with those thoughts? Doesn't everyone have similar fear and imaginations? People just don't tell because they see these things as abnormal. Wrong and what a pity? I can assure you that most of my friends have these problems and it is particularly serious among the successful, educated and wealthy people and some of their lives are affected by these things. Whenever a person have some achievement or valuable possession, they would start worrying about losing them and they would drop to the bottom of the pit. That is human nature.
I have to say that I myself also have these problems. I have been quite successful in my career and I am now financially independent, nothing to worry about and yet but I keep worrying about losing everything, people would bully me, reject me and fear that all my friends would leave me. I used to believe that it is better to be alone because nobody can hurt me. When I take long haul transpacific flights I was scared stiff because anything happens to the plane I would drop down helplessly into the ocean and the shores are many miles away, so rescue would be zero. I also dream about being pursued by triads and bad people. Sometimes these leads to superstitious thoughts like I would not want to travel on black Fridays. Sometimes, we are forced to have these worries because everyone must have the experience that from the moment you wake up, everything goes wrong and worry about hit by a car when I go out, and on the other hand, there are days en everything goes right and we are relaxed. We can't help to wonder if there are some supernatural things affecting us.
As a girl, surely, the first thing you are concerned about is aging, time is merciless and we can't reverse age. Years go by, we start counting out fingers and realize that our young days are slowly fading away. We start thinking, would anyone care about me when I am old, what would I become and would I be able to enjoy life?
So, how should we handle all these worries we are facing and what the future holds for us? Life never seems to be the way we want it, but we still have to live it the best way we can. Life is never perfect, but we can fill it with perfect moments. We all come to this world to play a role and so long as we tried our best for achievements and don't do evil things, then we are fine. Our abilities are limited by many things and nobody is perfect. Every great success requires some kind of struggle to get there. We have to struggle for better lives and should reward ourselves when we are doing things right. Life is not supposed to be easy. More than half of our lifetime are involved in struggle, survival and self-improvement, so happy days are not too many. So, be happy with what you have achieved so far, live to the best you can in the coming year and reminiscent your colorful youthful days when you grow older. Aging is not so fearful because most people who have some achievements in young days would go on to live a satisfying and peaceful matured life. We have no choice buy to bear all the pain, worries and struggles in our lives. We should enjoy and be satisfied with all the things we have at present because you would realize that nature has been more than kind to you as you already have a lot of things which others envy about. Go ahead with confidence. Life is a journey, not a destination.
- Reply IMNONARCISSUS
sunnyv: You told us about your fears, concern and worries. Actually, what is wrong with those thoughts? Doesn't everyone have similar fear and imaginations? P ...
- Reply qianwen
- I have the same experience with you. Sometimes something disgusting would suddenly come to my mind and keep haunting around me for a minute .I once asked my friend for help, while she did not think that was a big deal and simply told me to stopping thinking. Well, it does not work really.
Now i find my way to solve it. That is when those thought come up , i would not deliberately try to drop it but let it be. Then you'll find it would disappear by itself, though it may takes some time at the beginning.
- Reply Wendysuisgreat
- Thanks there. I will.
ada23: i just have to say if you have something bad or happen by accident, it is your destiny, you have no idea to change the planned routine. Don`t fear or ...
- Reply Wendysuisgreat
- I think so dear.
Candy.liu: I agree with you, keeping busy can reduce the blind fancy.
- Reply Wendysuisgreat
- Hi Sunnyv, you can really make a psychologist who is eligible to open a psychological consulting room, as you seem to have mastered the essence in life, where you are detered or frightened by nothing else on earth. I think my greatest obstable in life is my inner fear which makes a handle on my way forward. I have to defeat it before I can do anything confidently until achieve some success in life. I think I am the kind of person who is ambitious but just have too much fears or worries that easily lead me to depression. I have to conquer myself first as I'm too fragile in mind.
sunnyv: You told us about your fears, concern and worries. Actually, what is wrong with those thoughts? Doesn't everyone have similar fear and imaginations? P ...
- Reply sunnyv
- Thanks Wendy. Your worries and concerns are just normal. You are doing well and would be fine. Yes, you must try to overcome your insecurities like the way I did. My pressures and burdens are far more serious than yours and yet I manage to come out of it alive. You can too. There are lots of problems to face in the difficult path of life and you would have to face them too. Take care.
Wendysuisgreat: Hi Sunnyv, you can really make a psychologist who is eligible to open a psychological consulting room, as you seem to have mastered the essence in lif ...
