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A friend in need is a friend indeed. We all have friends. But the really close friends are hard to meet. Some friends may just acompany with us for a while or a period of time. Some may stay with us for the life time. We contact each other even our life change, social status change or economical condition change.
I found that the same economical situation or the same interests will keep the friendship more close. The friendship which was built in school days will be more genuin. Why i am saying this , it is because I find that there is harder to build the friendship after work. The most close friedship for me comes from the college days.
There are also some called close friends, who act like the stranger suddenly once you need help. It looks like that you get known a new person.
Fine wines may improve with age. True friendship should go through the verification of time too.
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- Reply Catherine陈
- I am not sure whether I have true friends or not . When others ask for help , I am willing to help them .And whenever something worries me , I will also turn to others . The people with the same hobbies or similar personal charateristics may stay closer to each other . But it doesn't mean you will share everything with each other . I admire or appreciate many people and I find I can learn a lot from them . I hope we can become good friends . But as a woman , it may be not wise to talk a lot with a male . It may cause someone else's misunderstanding .
- Reply IMNONARCISSUS
- Exactly it is hard or impossible to have a friend to whom you could pour your heart, though almost every people actually need such real friends
- Reply sunnyv
- Your topics are always interesting as it affects everyone. ''Friendship''.
Friends are always important in our lives. Without friends, our lives would be lonely and without much connection or purpose.
Friendship goes both ways. Giving and receiving. I have noticed that we all seem to have two types of friends.
First type are those who are those unconditional true friends which can can talk anything without limit and these are normally long time friends from way back to school days. They give us valuable opinion and always with us when we need them for support. Having them in our lives is an assurance.
Second type are those friends who attach to us for benefits of material and monetary. They are only happy with us when we invite them out for food or spending. They are not interested to give us any assistance or helpful ideas. When we need them for help they would pretend to be busy or just disappear until your troubles are over.
There are also other types who are interested to wild entertainment, extravagance and decadent lifestyles and some who are willing to go to a quiet lace to talk our hearts out.
What we all want are friends who we can talk to freely and sincerely, share our thoughts and sorrows. True friends can brighter our days and lighten our troubles.
A good friend is a connection to life - a tie to the past,
a road to the future and tell us how to survive in this totally insane world.
Friends are angels who lift us up when our wings when we forget how to fly and give us directions when we are lost.
This is an interesting subject. Hope we can discuss it more deeply later so that we know whether our friends are normal and what real friends are.
I hope other people here at Dioenglish can also tell us about your friends so that we can know what you think about your ''friends''.
- Reply sunnyv
- Perhaps you can tell us why it is so hard to have trusted friends, because I really don't understand why everyone have so few good friends. Is the problems with ourselves or others? Some people don't need friends and can go alone whole life?
IMNONARCISSUS: Exactly it is hard or impossible to have a friend to whom you could pour your heart, though almost every people actually need such real friends
- Reply sunnyv
- Seems it is hard for you to trust friends, perhaps due to past bad experience. I have got a lot of help from friends before, so friends are important for me. Of course, I also have some friends who are devils. All in all, friends have an important part in my life no matter when I was poor before or when I am secure like at present. Friends cannot hurt you too much if you know who to trust.
Catherine陈: I am not sure whether I have true friends or not . When others ask for help , I am willing to help them .And whenever something worries me , I will al ...
- Reply Candy.liu
- I think it’s not easy to keep good relationship with friends all the way. Something can change it or affect it, although it’s not our intention, and something we can’t change.
sunnyv: Your topics are always interesting as it affects everyone. ''Friendship''.
Friends are always important in our lives. Without friends, our lives would ...
I had a colleague (let me call her Nina) before and I always think of her as a good friend, but I don’t know if I am a friend of her now. We come from the same hometown, we are in the similar age, we both like climbing, we talked about everything before, but it seems that we have nothing to say now. She was fired by our boss a certain months ago. I am not sure what the exact reason is, the boss just said that she wasn’t fit for the job. And a few days later, another girl (let me call her Fiona) who quit the job before came back to our department, and replaced the position of Nina. All of us are good friends before. But things change from the time when Nina was fired and Fiona came back. Nina didn’t want to talk to us, nor by phone or wechat or QQ, all the communication tools. I called Nina to ask something about her current situation at that time, she just said few words and didn’t want to continue the conversation more, I sent message to her, she replied only few words after a long time…She didn’t contact us actively from then on. I still keep on sent some message to her sometimes. She hides her information from us in the circle of friends on wechat. I don’t know what the relationship between us now.
Maybe she thought that why she was fired, not me, or why she was fired, Fiona came back to replace her position. Maybe this is a knot that will never be opened. But still hope time can solve.
- Reply sunnyv
- Oh what a pity that you lost a good friend without knowing the real reason. I suspect, somebody must have done or said something behind you which made Nina misunderstand you, otherwise she would not disconnect in such a way. If possible, you should try to alert Nina that she may have misunderstood you or wrongfully suspected you. Friends are valuable, so try to make an effort to rescue the relationship. Nice of you to tell us about this so that we know friends can be lost due to no fault of ours.
- Reply Candy.liu
- It's complicated thing for me. I don't know how to talk about it clearly. Nina hates the third girl (Fiona) from then on. Fiona told me that Nina asked her "why you quit the job before but come back now, i don't want to contact you in the future". I didn't mention it above that Nina worked for another department in our company, and Fiona and i worked for the same department. Three of us were good friends at that time. After Fiona quit the job and went back hometown, Nina moved to replace the position of Fiona, and three of us keep in touch with each other. Fiona resigned a few months later she wanted to come back because she didn't like the job in hometown. So Fiona asked our boss if she could come back. I have to say our boss (a lady) like Fiona very much all the time maybe for her good ability to work. There was no doubt that the boss agreed. So the next was: Nina was fired, and then Fiona came back...Actually, Fiona didn't imagine her back caused Nina being fired.
sunnyv: Oh what a pity that you lost a good friend without knowing the real reason. I suspect, somebody must have done or said something behind you which made ...
- Reply sunnyv
- Oh I see. Indeed it would be hard for you to explain. Try anyway.
Candy.liu: It's complicated thing for me. I don't know how to talk about it clearly. Nina hates the third girl (Fiona) from then on. Fiona told me that Nina aske ...
- Reply IMNONARCISSUS
- It depends. I'm afraid being utilitarian and selfish might be the main reasons that contribute to it
