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i married with my husband about one year ago after 2 years love。he is very detail and sweet，treat me well by doing actual things like doing homework，cook the meals，make surprise on our anniversary，all the things make me feel being loved and cared for.i always think it is the charming of distance to keep love fresh，my husband and i are apart from two different cities on workdays，we only meet each other on the weekends，when we are apart，i act as a strong woman in my career and seem to solve everything.when we get togother，i look like a baby that can't handle anything even though take a correct bus to arrived his residental place.all my things are relied on his arrangements and obviously i enjoy it.but these two days，he has been being busy in his job and  regardless of me，i felt lost and upset that affect my concentration on my job，i realize immediately that i have been excessively dependent on my husband and it will break the balance relationship between us someday。this is a dangerous signal that means i will become the kind of woman who put all all her happiness and sorrows only on the other man，how narrow and limited！i must stop being swayed by considerations of gain and loss，to be a independent and condident office lady and wife，love and believe in my husband，support him，make our marriage strong and steady!
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- Reply carolyayayaya
- It's really a challenge for couples living in different cities. From my point of view, you two should live together, no matter which side quit the job. If you don't think living in two cities is a problem, you can do something else after work to make your life much more be enriched. Anyway, frequent communications between couples are also extremely necessary.
- Reply gogo-alice
- yes,you are right,we want to get together but we also face up to the attractivity and chance from each others job especially my job cause our company are plan to do IPO. we don't want to quit the job either.
carolyayayaya: It's really a challenge for couples living in different cities. From my point of view, you two should live together, no matter which side quit the job ...
- Reply carolyayayaya
- Sometimes, we do have to face the dilemma. It's time for you to communicate with your husband. If both of you think it's not a problem to live in two cities, then, try to adjust and balance your own life. If you think it's a problem, you two have to think of a way to solve it. After all, you should lose something if you want to gain something else. It's up to you which aspect is more important for you.
- Reply Persistance
- Wish you happy. Distance is not a big problem if love exists. Maintaining marriage for a whole life is the most difficult.
- Reply sunnyv
- The most significant stage in the life of a girl is fall in love and marriage. Now that you got such a good caring and loving husband, you should be grateful and don't complain or expect too much. Why change anything when it is working so well?
As a man, I can tell you that men like their girlfirend or wife to rely and depend on them because this would make him the provider and leader of the family. No men likes a girl who is dominant or over bearing. Don't try that. Let your husband know that you are dependent on him, you appreciate his care and love.
Working apart and living in two different cities is a positive thing for you because distance creates fondness. The yearn of meeting each other on weekends is sweet and good feeling. Being together everyday could result in tiredness and frequent arguments. As our friend ''Persistance'' said, son long as there is love, this is not a problem and the long term relationship is most difficult and hard to maintain.
