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Today we visit one of my friend who had just her second baby. It is still a girl.But whatever a girl or a boy, i felt happy for her. Since one family with two children is more happier.I also desired to have a second one.But my husband is not the one who can support a family with two children, Since his work is not so stable and he do not want to find a more stable job. Also he always think that his fortune did not come, when it is his fortune,he can be successful and wealthful. I had talk to him again and again but he never listen to me once. So now i am great desperation about him.So it is a white dream for me to have a second child. just a dream unless that i will have a divoice one day.
I am the one who can just live depending on myself. So now i must learn to be strong in my health and heart then one day i am live better to depend on myself.
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- Reply sunnyv
- Having a second baby needs careful planning and thinking. Some married couples don't want even one baby because there are too many unknown risks and needs a lot of money to raise a child. You have already have a complete family when you have your first baby.
Those who are chasing for a boy should not do so because it can easily be a girl again. The country now has gender imbalance. There are too much male and less female. In the next 10-20 years a girl would be precious. Remember, a boy is gold and a girl is diamond.
You should not feel bad about your husband's earning power because earning a good salary is not easy. Who don't want a good pay job? You married him not for his income. Later he may find a high pay job and then he may look back and recall your complains. You are already fortunate to be married and have a healthy baby. Do not expect too much. Be happy with what you have.
- Reply teadrinking
- Considering having a second kid should be in line with a couple's full preparation. Though the open of second child policy has been carrying out for one year, some couples still face the problem of huge burden from living cost. Especially for those who live in big cities where they face pressure too much. Your husband probably has some thoughts to have a nicer future while now he just face the unstable work condition, therefore, he feels anxious if it is necessary to have the second child now.
Since raising a baby is not that easy, parents have to take care the baby and also teach the baby to be a qualified person who can live independent after becoming an adult. That is really a huge responsibility.
But it does not barricade the way for you to have the thought of having another baby. That really depends on mutual understanding and the current situation if it can support a new kid.
As individual, every person should be independent and live on his or her own, even though a couple, each should respect and know the other, otherwise, some little trifles are easily going to escalate to quarrels and disputes.
