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I found that my daughter is a little self-abased. I had realized for a long time and i am trying to find ways but there is no changes till now.
Everytime when i am angry with her about her bad behavior then she will just stare at you without any other expression it seems that she is so poor.
When she do things wrong. she will be critisized, then she will have no expression with anyh words. Many times i told her to say what she want to say or can ponit out my faults.But she won't. many times i had no choice about how to communicate with her.
In fact, I am a little self-abased with myself in life. Maybe she is like me. It is maybe affected by our family.
My husband is the one with money-wasted. He do not have money to support our family. He can spend out all his monthly salary and then borrow money from his friends. We had a lot of quarrel about the problem. But he had never changed. So I am the only one to support the family and my daughter. As times went on . I am easy to be angry even to my daugter. I admire those with considerate husband. those with parents to help them or help them to take care of the their children, Admire those with their own houses, Admire those with their own business. those with common family aim......But it is a dream to me and my family.
Since my husband 's mother died earlier and his father is blind. So no one can help us expect ourself. I hope to live with common aim to buy houses and improve our living standards but he never join in. If you want to talk about it then he will be angry and shout at you. Many times i do not know how and what to do.So as times goes on i am a little self abased. I am the one only live on myself . It seems that i am the poorest one in the world.\\
What i want to write this here is that i want to speak out and find ways to change. There will be many ways to live happier and more satisfied. I hope that i can find one.
Post comment Comment (3 replies)
- Reply kuin
- Obviously you're living in deep pressure so you break out to relieve it.The point is that your husband doesn't stand by your side and seems that only you take the burden. it's a complicated situation of your family.you're very hard to support.
- Reply kuin
- Maybe you can try to change a city to live,or just find a way to work off your frustration and anger.life continues on,live happier is important.
- Reply sweetapple
- I feel so sorry for you after this story. I have to say the family atmosphere greatly affects the child's growth. Maybe, you child is in her rebellious age, while it would be a serious problem if there's no communication.
I also grow up in a family full of quarrels. I don't know how many times that I would feel I'm unfortunate. When I was young, I was very scared of my father, because he was very strict, so I seldom have an word with him. But as I grew older, I gradually sensed his uneasiness and toughness, so I started to comprehend him and learn to care about him, then we got on well with each other. Honestly, that family atmosphere had great impact on my present life, for example, I dare not express my own ideas, I dare not try new things, I dare not make decisions and I have poor communication skills. The poor condition also contributes to my problems. Because of poverty, my personality was constrained to a great extent.
For you, I really feel sorry for your situation. In our life, there are a lot of things that we can not change. I wonder if you could have a deeply conversation with your husband to see if he could make some contribution to your family and create a more harmonious family atmosphere for your child's growth. For your child, I think you should try to know more about her, to listen more to her, too many shouts and denies would make her farther from you. It's really a headache to handle the family relationships, because we can hardly to guess out what is in his or her mind. In fact, if everyone is grateful and understandable, then it'll go more smoothly. Whatever, keep a positive attitude, to influence your husband and your daughter, wish a better change for your family.
