If you wish to receive, you must give, if you give, it's invested, what do we expect from an investment, a return, multiplied. If you give, everybody wins because you also get a return with invest, isn't that extraordinary.

--   Jim Rohn --

Ben loved Laura, but he couldn't afford time for her 

One day, Ben met Laura, he’s very happy about her  as Laura was a nice girl who looked gorgeous and dressed stylish.

Ben liked Laura very much and he promised to take her for a trip where she has never been to, however, one day passed, one month was gone, and then one year, there’s nothing happened.

Ben runs a small business, he enjoys work as much as someone loves chocolates, he simply can’t live without it.

He starts work at 4:00 o’clock in the morning and arrives home at 7:00pm or even later, he has no holidays, no weekends.

That’s all right, Laura understood the importance of his job,so she didn’t expect Ben doing less work because of her.

One day Laura could no longer tolerant of Ben. During Christmas time, Ben still worked with no break, that’s ok.

Laura was very disappointed the time when she met Ben, she received no Christmas gift, let alone a bunch of flowers, which only cost AUD20.

Ben explained he’s too busy to find a shop to buy, and he didn’t care too much about a gift.

Indeed, Laura didn’t care about gift at all, she could buy as many as she liked, but she couldn’t feel a sense of care from Ben.

She decided to leave Ben in the end, though Ben still called Laura trying to chase her back, but she said: “Sorry, I am very busy at the moment; I can’t afford the time to see you.”

Ben has no time for a girl at all, he feels something missing in his life, but he has never thought about changing himself for the girl he's looking for.

Ben doesn't realize what he really wants, if he wants a girl, having a fulfilled life, he should at least give up some time from work by investing time on something important for his personal life which brings him happiness.

I’ve heard one friend said: “Money is useless if you don't know how to use it.”

If Ben put 100% effort in making money, and he has no time to use it, then what’s the point earning money and doing endless investment?

Life is too short; it’s not about work all day long and sleeps; then works and sleeps.

Ben can gain happiness easily if he changes his mind doing less work and putting a little bit time and care to Laura.

Even if when we plant flowers, it needs time to water and care, let alone a human being.

Therefore, it is not about Ben can’t find a girlfriend; it’s more related to his mind whether he has put a relationship on his priority list and take action to realize it.

Jack gave care and time to Sally, he got what he wanted

When Sally met Jack, Sally was not that into him as Jack didn't look attractive.

However, Jack was fascinated about her as Sally was a nice pretty girl always with smiling face.

Jack didn’t earn good money at all, but he’s very generous, he tried his best to spoil Sally.

Jack didn’t give promise to Sally, but he’s always put her on his mind. Jack used to invite Sally going for a movie or making home-made nice meals especially catering for Sally.

Jack’s bank balance could be 0 at the end of the month, but he’s still using very limited money inviting Sally to go for a trip.

And whenever Sally gets angry, Jack always tries to please Sally and makes her smile again.

Jack will be the person first arrive whenever Sally needs help.

Because Jack cares Sally so much and he puts her on his heart, he spends time, the effort  which makes Sally’s heart singing.

Sally gets satisfaction from Jack, Sally realizes Jack isn't a perfect one she’s looking for, but he gives her perfect love, which makes her feel like in the heaven.

There’s care, there’s love.

Compared to Ben, Jack is poor with no money, but he’s very generous and trying to make things happen by putting huge effort and time.

Because he knows how to give Sally help before he can receive love.

However, Ben only wanted to get love from Sally, he didn't know how to give before he actually could get what he wanted.

Therefore, please don’t expect you can gain what you wants automatically without putting effort on, which is quite impossible.

I only accept friends who care about my writing

It also applies to friendship

When I open up Wechat people nearby, one guy kept sending me friend requests, I ignored him as I only accept someone who is interested in my writing.

Then he’s got angry and said: “F* you”.

I really wanna text him back: “F* you, idiot”. But I didn’t say that because it’s not worth wasting time on a narrow-minded person.

Again, after I accepted one guy, he called me for a few times, I told him: “Please don’t call me, I have no time chatting with you.” Then he tried to text me and wanted to see me. I knew the only thing I could do was never text him back.

And someone said: “You look soo lovely, you must be the most beautiful girl in the town.” which made me laugh. I said: “Thanks, that’s only my profile photo.”

After a while, the guy said: “Do you have more photos?” after hearing that, I didn’t wanna continue the conversation because that meant he’s never read my articles as I posted heaps photos there.

So please don’t say those flirting words, no matter how nice, I am not interested in. I only love people say: “I enjoy your articles very much.” that’s the only thing and keywords I decide whether I accept you or not.

On the other hand, I have started meeting a few readers in real life as I need stories from them also for friendship purpose.

What is the difference someone I don’t accept while I am talking to the others face-to-face, they are all unknown people from nearby, I don’t know how they look like, what’s their social status, I have no idea who’s rich or poor, that doesn’t matter to me.

However, I treat them differently, that’s not because I am biased,  but it is more related to giving and receiving.

Some are so impatient, they don’t try to understand why you are here, they only want to satisfy their own needs, and they don’t care about you at all.

On the other hand, some guys pay attention to my writing, they make comments and suggestions, give likes to my articles and forward my articles to their friends. 

That’s the best thing I love to see, and the best reward I’ve got.

Because those words inspired my writing, I hope readers can also get encouraged after reading my articles, which is the reason I am here-bring value to the society.

You can get what you want if you know how to give

One gentleman joined my writing account: Englishpassion at the very beginning, and he’s offering me help by correcting my grammar mistakes.

I do appreciate for that, occasionally, he texts me, I would always text him back.

Recently, I added him as friends for private Wechat account as he wanted to see my posting from the moments.

And he’s always giving me good suggestions, which is very useful.

Actually, I even don’t know what he looks like, but we have developed friendship – trustworthy.

Because before he gets what he wants, he knows how to give people what they really need.

Therefore, please don’t complain people ignore you or unfair to you, first think about, what you can do for someone else, have you tried best to help others.

I believe you will get the reward later on, probably more than what you are expecting.

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