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Even graduation means breaking up, so what?
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Recently I read an article arguing about whether graduation means breaking up. She said that she didn't expect this thing to happen, so she tried hard to stay close with her boyfriend when hunting for job, but finally the job she prefered didn't stay at the same city with her boyfriend. She was a little worried, for many people had told her most of the couples will break up after graduation, it seemed like a reality that few people can change. Then she felt so confused, she really wanted to keep this relationship, she didn't know what to do, she sisn't want to give up her job too.
Some people showed their opinion too, some said that it is common to break up for couples that time if they don't work in the same city, they advised her not to give up job, after all career is more important; some said that if she really want to keep the relationship, then quit this job, find another one that in the same city with her boyfriend, after all job is only a way to suppor family; others thought that she needn't have to worry about this issue, they thought if their love is deep enough, distance shouldn't be the problem, if not, they could break up because of other reasons even lived in the same city.
Everyone had their own opinion towards this issue, and all of them had a reasonable support. But what I am was wondering whether the endings should be that important? Not everything should we know the endings, if we know it in advance, is there any fun left? Is it meaningful to do all things before that since we already know the ending. Isn't it wonderful just because that we didn't know the outcomings?
Even you do know that you will break up after graduation, will you give up the love now? The answer would be no, and of course you are both expecting a bright future, it is enough, isn't it? At least you have loved each other before, at least you were happy for being together. If you are still together after that, it would be better, but if not, it is your fate. You will never know who is the one that will accompany you till the end of the life, should you then stop trying to stay together with anybody? In each of your love story, you won't know the outcomings, but will you refuse to start until you thought you have got the right person? But the question is that how could you know that she or he is the right person? The truth is that you believe that everyone that you loved before was the right person.
So I really don't think it is meaningful to argue about that question, why not just enjoy every minute that being together? If you are doomed to be together, nothing would be the peoblem.
N asked me,"according to your theory, you should not refuse those boys so quickly before, and pick one, you got 4 chasing after you this semester, you know that college life is coming to the end".
I smiled back, for these two things were different issues, right? I just said that when being together, we needn't have to worry about the maybe breaking up, we just need to try hard to stay together for as long as possible. I am not saying that I should fell in love with someone before graduation since I won't worry about breaking up. Love is not just a girl and a boy, feeling of like each other should be necessary, so if don't like someone, I won't agree to be his girlfriend. I should be responsible to both him and me. I keep single still just because having meeting the boy I like, if I meet, nothing would be the problem, right?
So couples, stoping worrying about the "graduation means breaking up" sayings, enjoy every minute that you are together now, leave that saying behind, just try to love each other like before. I will repeat that sentence" If you are still together after that, it would be better, but if not, it is your fate. " No need to worry about, even it is true, so what, at least you have loved, you have tried.
At the end, hope each couples can walk together till the end.
Post comment Comment (5 replies)
- Reply rich
- what a thinker you are! basically i agree. yes if their love is true and deep enough, distance should not be a problem. However, from my observation, few people can really hold out against it. love does become less strong if you live apart in reality. :-)
- Reply fairy0612
- rich: what a thinker you are! basically i agree. yes if their love is true and deep enough, distance should not be a problem. However, from my observation,I have heard of this fact many times before, I don't know whether it is mostly true, but it reall doesn't matter, since many things won't come to the endings that we wish.
- Reply Kevin_z
- If graduation means breaking up, any other obstacle in life can have the same effect. Life is full of uncertainty, faith is the only thing to which we can seek for help!
- Reply fairy0612
- Kevin_z: If graduation means breaking up, any other obstacle in life can have the same effect. Life is full of uncertainty, faith is the only thing to which weSeems like you have in faith with destiny too. I believe in it myself.
- Reply Kevin_z
- fairy0612: Seems like you have in faith with destiny too. I believe in it myself.Not exactly. What I mean is having faith in people, in the person you love and trust. I never believe in destiny, I think we can call those randomly occuring accidents destiny or anything but I definitely believe the future is not predetermined and what we do currently really matters. The accidental factors we can't project in advance, I call them "uncertainty" which I borrowed from economics theory.
