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Boyfriend? Job? Which first?
Honestly, to me, beijing is never like a home, though now I work here, live here. One year ago, with all my enthusiasm and hope for a beauty future, I came here, my first employed commpany. While when I came here, I realised how foolish I was to connect my future with this company, it deceived me from the very begining, here I donot want to list the bad sides of it, I know it‘s useless, though sometimes I complains.
Since now, I have worked for one year, long enough to leave, for I know that I won't stay here for long, and the longer I stayed, the weaker it will be for me in the competition of hunting for a job. So the sooner the better if wanna leave.
But now, there comes a big problem. There are two big decision in front of me, one is my life partner, one is my life career.
Since I have neither of them, the choice seems much harder for me. Because of my small circle, I stayed single until now, and apprently, the will-be-boyfriend will show after I changed my job, so the problem comes. As I say, beijing is never like a home to me, because of the high cost, the heavy traffic, the climate and so on, so as a result, finally I will leave here, so if I find a man here, what about our future when time for me to leave? What if he would not like to go with me? It can not be ensured, so I can't find someone far away from my hometown.
You may say, the biggest problem in beijing is the house problem, you can marry to a native,
Since now, I have worked for one year, long enough to leave, for I know that I won't stay here for long, and the longer I stayed, the weaker it will be for me in the competition of hunting for a job. So the sooner the better if wanna leave.
But now, there comes a big problem. There are two big decision in front of me, one is my life partner, one is my life career.
Since I have neither of them, the choice seems much harder for me. Because of my small circle, I stayed single until now, and apprently, the will-be-boyfriend will show after I changed my job, so the problem comes. As I say, beijing is never like a home to me, because of the high cost, the heavy traffic, the climate and so on, so as a result, finally I will leave here, so if I find a man here, what about our future when time for me to leave? What if he would not like to go with me? It can not be ensured, so I can't find someone far away from my hometown.
You may say, the biggest problem in beijing is the house problem, you can marry to a native,
but question is why would the native marry you? Where and how you can meet the proper native?
Maybe you will say, considering your case, why not go back to your hometown, but as to me, it will be seriously embarrassing if I came home without any achievements. And what's more, I came here for only one year, I even haven't learned enough to make me perfect. I wanna to stay longer to make me stronger. So my next job should be in Beijing too. But again, when I am strong enough, maybe two or three years longer, I will be old, old enough to be a girl.
So my contradiction stands out, if boyfirend comes first, what about my job? Staying with him in beijing, but I clearly know I won't make my home at beijing, because life would be so much hard for me; if job comes first, I would be too old to find a good man. So contradict, so confuse, I really don't know what to do, I even cannot see my future, what should I do? Can anyone help me? Is it because that I wanted too much or maybe I never clearly know what I want?
So my contradiction stands out, if boyfirend comes first, what about my job? Staying with him in beijing, but I clearly know I won't make my home at beijing, because life would be so much hard for me; if job comes first, I would be too old to find a good man. So contradict, so confuse, I really don't know what to do, I even cannot see my future, what should I do? Can anyone help me? Is it because that I wanted too much or maybe I never clearly know what I want?
Post comment Comment (2 replies)
- Reply sunnyv
- Your partner in life is the top priority. He is the one you would spend your life with for remaining of your life. Do not create too much conditions for matching your boyfriend. People always say, choose right and choose left, in the end there is nothing left. After the Soochow, there would be no boat to carry you. You cannot affort to get somebody really suitable for you unless you are exceptionally attractive. I think you would know how to make the final calculated, wise and workable decision. Wish you the best.
- Reply Kimi011812
- I think u do not need to worry a lot before it happens, what u should do now is to handle the troubles (like job)firstly. Life partner stuff, u will see where it goes when u two stay together, at that time, u can figure out what u can do then.
