When you meet someone for the first time, it’s not proper and impolite to ask someone personal questions. However, some people don’t seem to get the point. 

Several days ago, one colleague I met her for the first time was sitting next to me. Whiling eating, she suddenly asked me how old my child was. I was surprised at what she asked, and then I was smiling to tell her that I didn’t get married yet. At the same time, I could feel that how embarrassed she was and she changed her topic at once. In fact, some friends like my age have already got married and have a kid. But not all people get married at such an age.

Sometimes we need to break the ice to have a small talk with others, but if you don’t know others well, you’d better not talk some personal things like age, marriage and money. When you choose a topic that the other doesn’t want to mention in the slightest, you’d better keep silent instead of continuing talking about it.

If you think keeping silent doesn’t make you feel comfortable, you can choose the latest news, some TV plays and healthy topics and so on. So before starting a small talk, you’d better think about how well you know the other. All in all, you should make sure what you are talking won’t make the other feel uneasy and uncomfortable. 

In the daily life, I'm not the one who is good at having a small talk with others. I'm not shy but not much outgoing. At any rate, I hope I can know how to talk with others in different occasions. In order to be like that, I have been reading a book about how to talk with others well. I believe that I can learn some theories from the book and put them into the practice. When I complete the book, I think I could be better than before.