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I have been here for a couple of days. When we are living in different places, we are really missing each other, but when we get together, the conflict will appear and unpleasant things will happen. For me, the unpleasant thing often trouble me and makes me have trouble sleeping at night. How did the unpleasant thing come into being? OK, now let me think back to it.
Sometimes, conversations with him makes us unhappy and it’s difficult for us to make the topic go on. Then when we come into the dead end, both of us don’t find a way to go out. So standing at the dead end, we just give up talking to each other, standing there back to back in silence. This kind of communication happen to us a lot of times, but we don’t seem to know how to avoid it and change our direction to go out. Why does he become the one who is willing to give in first?
However, when the annoying thing happened, we were in a bad mood and no longer felt like talking. Even though we were both unhappy, I expected him to find a way to deal with it and to make me happy and be active in changing the embarrassing situation. In fact, he often failed to do that, but he seemed to forget those unpleasant conversations soon, unfortunately, I had a good memory. I know it’s very silly to take those things into my heart. What I get is to torture myself constantly instead of him.
To be honest, every time the talking was going wrong, I had a feeling for that, but I couldn’t help controlling my words and the way I talked, then I witnessed the following thing. Talking with our love is totally different from with others. When we are talking with others, most of us seem to keep our cool to be faced with different situations and know how to control our words and the behavior. So there is a question, why is it hard for us to talk with our love happily from time to time?
As we know, talking is very significant in every occasion. We know it but we have no idea how to do it. Even if I have read books about how to talk with others and the way to communicate with others, I still don’t have the ability to put the some important skills to good use. How poor I am ! Knowing something is not just enough! The key is to make good use of it and enjoy the process of taking in something useful and new skills by working out the problem successfully.
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- Reply teadrinking
- Read a book and then to get some of useful imformation that can help us, but the point is to put it into practice. After exercises, we might have the ability to master well. So it is with your situation.
Besides, you'd better to put some away, such as the bad memories happened when you two in the talk. Coneversation is an efficient way to let people know well each other, but at some time it also goes to the dead end which might occur people who are very familar with each other, and then find no more that they can talk other than being in silence.
What is more, the love has many ways to show its romance. If you can not find it in your talk, you can just try other ways, such as go out for watching a moive, going somewhere for a travel, and some other activities you can consider doing to change your current awkward situation.
Since you two love one another, so do not make everything so hard at your side to request him to do as what you think. For example, he forgets those unpleasant talks, while you recall those and can not forget them meanwhile want him say sorry to make you two feel good again. Actually, a boy usually is not willing to be so romantic or coping well with such affairs. He has his own style to show love to his beloved unexpectedly.
Finally and also the important is that you two fall love together, this is the point that you two need to learn to endure and tolerate and also try to forgive anything happens as long as it is under the pinciples.
Wish you two can lead a good life.
- Reply Candy.liu
- Woman is considered as much more sensitive than man, so it seems that man is good at forgetting bad memories while woman will recall it from time to time, maybe it's normal, but don't focus on it. Try to transfer to other things when caught into the stalemate.
- Reply 2010jj
- yeap, what you said is totally right!
Candy.liu: Woman is considered as much more sensitive than man, so it seems that man is good at forgetting bad memories while woman will recall it from time to t ...
what i need to do is not to take things into my heart. So the next day I did forget the unhappy thing and tried to do things I need to do. Then we are good together!
- Reply 2010jj
- Thanks for your best wishes.
teadrinking: Read a book and then to get some of useful imformation that can help us, but the point is to put it into practice. After exercises, we might have the ...
as you say, we should forget the past things. The past is history. everyone has their own history but they need to move on, because the present is life. Then let the bygones be bygones, let future approach!
I want to thank you again for giving me some good advice. I think we can live a better life by helping and cherishing each other.
- Reply sunnyv
- Tea Drinking and Candy has said the things I wanted to say. Honestly, I have also learned something from them on how to communicate with our loved ones. Indeed, we have higher expectations from them and we remember whatever they said to judge their love and feelings for the other half. Forgive and forget for the sake of the long term future.
- Reply 2010jj
- Thanks sunny.
sunnyv: Tea Drinking and Candy has said the things I wanted to say. Honestly, I have also learned something from them on how to communicate with our loved one ...
after writing down these complaining words, I feel better now.
I realize that there are so many things that i need learn from you.
