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Is there someone you can’t stand her/his behavior? Because of your relationship, it’s hard for you to speak it out.
She is my sister-in-law. As we all known, it’s hard for us to get along well with. It’s normal that we are not perfect and can’t deal with anything well. So we must accept our and others’ bad things.
But there is one thing that I can’t stand. As her husband’s sister, it’s inconvenient to tell her not to do that.
If she couldn’t eat all the bowl of rice, she should try to empty some of the rice before eating. So you can guess some rice left in her bowel was eventually wasted by her. What’s worse, such behavior happened several times. There is no doubt that there are some ways to solve this problem.
Sometimes, I fill the bowels with rice; I would not give too much rice to her. If my mom fills her bowel with rice, she would fill the full bowel. I once told mom not to fill much, she didn’t listen to me. The eventually result was that she wasted a lot again.
Besides, when we and our relatives were eating together, there once were some people who couldn’t eat the full bowel. They poured some into the rice cooker before they started to eat. The fact is that others’ behavior didn’t set a good example for her.
To my disappointed, her husband, my brother seems to be ok with that. Actually my brother is against wasting food like me. But I don’t know such a behavior happened in front of him many times. I think if I were the one wasted food, while eating. He could point it out immediately in front of me. How ridiculous he ignored his wife’s action?
How could he ignore? If her behavior didn’t change, she would have a bad influence on her son. In the future, how can she teach her son not to waste food while eating? Even though her son is only 1 year and three months old, he learns everything quickly and his parents are his first teacher. It’s hard for kids to get rid off their parents’ influence. No matter how good or bad they are, they will make a difference to kids.
It’s best for the couple to communicate with that, right? This is the best way to improve the problem.
When I see her behavior, I try my best to make myself calm and shut up. You know I don’t want to bring the confliction to the family. I’m not the right person to do that. Even though what I say is right, she will not be happy to hear that from me. So you can imagine how I did my best to press my expression, when eating with them.
For me, not wasting food is not allowed to be broken at table. That is a serious and important family rule.
Post comment Comment (2 replies)
- Reply sunnyv
- One of the most difficult relations to deal with is the ''In-laws''. The in-laws are new arrival members of the family and there would surely be contradictions. She is the husband's sister, so the husband has to show some tolerance to her.
Some relatives like to take advantage of the relationship to show her influence. She knows she should not waste rice like that. Everybody knows how to take the right portion of rice and avoid waste. Even at restaurants, we reminded to order only enough and don't waste food. Not too long ago, people did not have enough to eat and rice was so precious. Some people don't even leave one grain of rice on the bowl. It is acceptable once or twice, but if that happens otfen, it is quite clear that she does not respect your words and advice. Gradually, other problems would arise if she is so wasteful and don't listen.
In a situation like this, it puts you in a difficult position. You can't just watch her waste rice again and again. If you speak out too often, it would cause arguments making it hard to maintain good relations. It is never easy to deal with relatives.
Since you have already voiced your opinion, the only thing you can do now is to watch it for a while. I am sure other members of the family can't stand this for long and would speak out soon.
- Reply yvonneandmandy
- the relationship between you and your sister in law is difficult to deal with.but just as you said,you are not the right person, So you can told your brother about it.
