Getting in her car, I sat beside her who was driving.

I didn’t remember how she started to talk about my problems and shortcomings. To start with little things, then she continued to  say this and that which I didn’t deal with well. In short, I became a totally failure. When she was speaking, I was listening and kept silent. It seemed that she had a privilege to judge and criticize me. And she had confidence in what she said.

Actually, hearing what she was speaking, I was quite unhappy and angry. Even though I was in a bad mood, I was trying to calm down myself. In my inner mind, I really wanted to retort upon her. You know there must be a word“but” in my next sentence. She is my senior and often helps us.

At a moment, she realized in a sudden what she said really made me happy. She touched my ear and said if you don’t like it. I told her firmly “ I don’t like it at all”.

Then she kept silent for a short time and changed another topic.

To be honest, what she said hurts me a lot. Even thought what she said about me is right, I can’t stand what she talked about me from the head to the toe.

What’s worse, she likes to talk about others without knowing others. That makes listeners unacceptable and unhappy. Until now, I seem not to get rid of the bad mood when thinking of what she said.

I decide to refute her when she begins to talk about me like that. Even though she thinks what she says is good to me, I can’t feel the goodness but unconfident.

Even though she is my aunt, she has no right to interfere with my life and work.

Even though I know she loves me, I can’t accept her all criticisms.

Even though she makes a success in her field, that doesn’t mean what she said is right and true.

In general, what she said makes me angry and unhappy. I can’t learn anything valuable from it. Because what she said is just her opinions, I fail to get some specific advice.

Next time, I’m unwilling to be a silent listener. I have to express myself and let her know what I was thinking of her.