Several days ago, I came across one of my neighbors, who was senior to me by many years and one mother of a daughter up to 30 years old. After some small talk, she asked me a favor to introduce one boyfriend to her daughter.
My neighbor was a very nice person. Actually, I really wanted to accomplish this mission to be a go-between. However, I was in deep pity and told her that I knew so many single women instead of single men. But I added It needed the proper timing and I would try.
It has been a annoying social problem there are so many leftover women and men around us. Despite the census which reported some million more men than women were born in the past years, It is weird more single women than single men in our life. When I mentioned the issue of being the go-between with my friends, both of us would be in surprise to ask "where the men were".
On the one hand, I suspect the reliability of the result of the census. In China, especially in countryside, many people haven't registered their kids' Hukou. On the other hand, it has been the confirming fact in the countryside there are more men while in cities there are more women. It is pretty easy to explain, the constantly mounting housing price hold back so many young boys, who are ambitious but lack of money. After struggling in cities for several years, most of them will give up and go back. However, for young girls, the situation is little different. Regardless of having diploma or money, they can turn to the last resort to find a man who has the urban Hukou to be in marriage. Then, all of the problems have been settled. Third, a rural girl can marry a urban wan. However, a urban girl can not accept a rural boy, if the boy has no college diploma.
The situations mentioned above have been the real obstacles to the leftover persons. Additionally, the popular fold saying holds we are in the different destiny to find our spouse. Are, however, just the environment and destiny to blame? I don't think so. After knowing some stories about the leftover persons, I come to the conclusion that if a person can not find Mr. or Mrs. Right after 35 years old, she or he should take others as the mirror to find the limitations. Some are so picky in their 20s, others care more about material conditions.
I think they should give the second thought to it and then make some compromises. Perhaps, they will find Mr. or Mrs. Right is standing around the corner.