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My brother will have second child which can be called happiness thing, but conversely bring me the tangle. Apparently, i am a leftover girl.
In our chinese society, we are born to compete with others in neighborhood or relatives in own family in terms of schooling, job, salary and substance condition.
Of course we are not streamlined product, but the parent the whole society are used to gauge you using accepted society standard as mentioned above.
So what is wrong with me? I just have not found the right one and not ready to take it.
And I am just a bit of fed up with the care from family members which they may think their wishes is good for me but turn out to be burden on me.
Yes, in their opinion i should be happy cau i get all their care, but i also have the reason to grieve, being leftover girl is that leads to be sick.
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- Reply sunnyv
- You need not be unhappy or worried. There are lots and lots of people similar to you out there in society. You are certainly not a leftover girl. You are probably a unnoticed girl. None of your fault. You have just not came across a suitable match. Which girl would not like to marry early and form a family? Quite often wish and reality runs opposite to each other. What could you do? Just marry anyone who comes into view? Certainly not because that would bring you never ending regrets. Forget all those gossipy neighbors and relatives because they are probably building happiness on your sorrows.
Indeed, Chinese society does bring a lot of pressures to girls when it comes to marriage. It is not easy to find a right match leaving girls to wonder where are all those Mr. Rights. Girls who are ordinary won't catch the eyes of Mr. Rights while those who are overqualified are unacceptable. When the right one comes along, there are other conditions which would ruin the whole thing.
You have reached the stage where you have done all you could for yourself and there is nothing much you could do about it. This is not something which you can try hard and make achievements, it depends on others too.
It is never too late. Nobody knows who you may meet tomorrow. Just hold on to hope and wish for the best. No matter what the outcome is, you are not to blame. Let fate take care of it. Wish you the best and may your dreams come true soon.
- Reply ada23
- yes, let fate take care of it.
sunnyv: You need not be unhappy or worried. There are lots and lots of people similar to you out there in society. You are certainly not a leftover girl. You ...
- Reply lovingfun
- Haha, hi, leftover girl, I am leftover boy...
Never mind.Just like what you say, you haven't meet your Mr right at right time. Things will be done in its own way. But remember, don't shut yourself down, then others may haven't got chance to know you.
- Reply ada23
- now i have looked through the situation or dilimma. I do not know who i will meet and what will happen on me. Also i am not sure when i will be noticed by someone who may attactive or unattractive to me. But i just show what i am and if i get it, that will beautify my life and if not, i still being myself. Some people in views does not means goes into your mind. So let the fate take care of it. That will be better than you find sb in views but living in obscurity and imagining others.
lovingfun: Haha, hi, leftover girl, I am leftover boy...
Never mind.Just like what you say, you haven't meet your Mr right at right time. Things will be done in ...
