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Break Up on Chinese Valentine's Day
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"Lovers always break up and make peace repeatedly, but we
love each other more as time passes by", I still remember the lyrics from
Leehom's song named Our Song. However, it's different for me this time.
Our relationship lasted for 5 months and ended with a fierce quarrel
after the Chinese Valentine's Day, which is also my birthday. Sadly,
we're the exception which love won't grow gradually---it decreases after
every fight.
In total, we have broken up for more than 5 times, most of which put forward by him. According to his words, he had been in love with me since 7 years ago, when we were junior high school classmates. He choose to hide his feelings for me and we lose touch after graduation. About a year ago he began to talk with me online...
As I recall the whole "love" thing, I find myself still not rational enough to distinguish real love from memory. Certainly he has his beautiful memory about the girl he liked at the age of 14 or so, but I don't have! Thus,our love loses balance at the very beginning. He was passionate and impulsive as his dream came true. In comparision, I'd like to make love slow and steady. We couldn't agree with each other less.
My friends, I'm really upset for this experience, I feel I'm not handling it in a good way.
Should we love somebody only by memory? 'Cause you know that people can change all the time. Expectations are hard to meet.
In total, we have broken up for more than 5 times, most of which put forward by him. According to his words, he had been in love with me since 7 years ago, when we were junior high school classmates. He choose to hide his feelings for me and we lose touch after graduation. About a year ago he began to talk with me online...
As I recall the whole "love" thing, I find myself still not rational enough to distinguish real love from memory. Certainly he has his beautiful memory about the girl he liked at the age of 14 or so, but I don't have! Thus,our love loses balance at the very beginning. He was passionate and impulsive as his dream came true. In comparision, I'd like to make love slow and steady. We couldn't agree with each other less.
My friends, I'm really upset for this experience, I feel I'm not handling it in a good way.
Should we love somebody only by memory? 'Cause you know that people can change all the time. Expectations are hard to meet.
Post comment Comment (11 replies)
- Reply gaopengtao1
- fellow you feeling.love is a mix.
- Reply Daisy19890515
- I believe there is true love between you and him. Think over and decide whether you can give him another chance~
- Reply Teddy126
- Of course not
To love a person because of who he or she used to be.....
At least it's unimaginable for me~
Love is about the present and the future
If he keeps regarding your relationship as a mission accomplished
Then it can definitely go no further since his heart may be going after another goal soon
Also you mentioned that he had already brought foward the idea of breaking up for 5 times, I think, that means you should really think twice about the cost of maintaining this vulnerable relationship.
Like the girl above, I also believe you are really into this guy and should give him another shot.But if the result turns out to be desperately disappointing as always, then you should make your decision~
Just for reference, though
Good Luck~
- Reply ashley0707
- gaopengtao1: fellow you feeling.love is a mix.Even my feeling is a mix
I'm still hesitating about whether to make up with him
- Reply ashley0707
- Daisy19890515: I believe there is true love between you and him. Think over and decide whether you can give him another chance~Actually I have thought over on this relationship. I wonder if it happened too early, when we are both immature. Both of us did something heart-breaking
- Reply ashley0707
- Teddy126: Of course notThank you so much!
To love a person because of who he or she used to be.....
At least it's unimaginable for me~
Love is about the present and the future
If
I will make a balance. You said it so right: this relationship seemed so vulnerable because we don't have a shared history.
I don't have a memory about a boy I loved secrectly
Is a shared history more important than love?
- Reply gaopengtao1
- changes happen everyday but life continues.let the past go with wind and the new life in front must be different.
- Reply ashley0707
- gaopengtao1: changes happen everyday but life continues.let the past go with wind and the new life in front must be different.Thank you so much
I will remember what you said
- Reply Daisy19890515
- ashley0707: Actually I have thought over on this relationship. I wonder if it happened too early, when we are both immature. Both of us did something heart-breakiIf you think it's all over, follow ur heart. I'd like to send you one sentence which is one of my favorite," Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened."Everything is gonna be OK,just hope for the best~
- Reply ashley0707
- Thank you for your sentence, it reminds me of one of Eason Chan's songs: you should know well of the feelings if you lose something before you obtain it
- Reply ashley0707
- zxubeyond: I will been with you forever~honeyWe should
