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Which is your choice, Love or Freedom?
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Know that love makes us lose our freedom, and know that marriage is lifetiem contract.
But in order to make lover happy and get lover's heart, we are willing to make commitments.
Love is a pursuit of the process of no-freedom.
When you complain about not-too-much freedom, it indicates that you do not love him.
And it is a time when you should give up your love.
What do you think of it, my dear friends? Which is your best choice, love ir freedom?
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- Reply sunnyv
- First, we have to admit that in today's realistic society, there are several types of real marriages and artificial marriages. Those marriages can be categorised into the following:
1. TRUE LOVE: True love, free and self willing and unconditional life long marriage.
2. MARRIAGE OF CONVENIENCE. That means there is NO real deep love. It could also be as follows; Your marriage partner is only suitable but not exactly the one you want but still want to marry. Your friends are married so you want to marry too. Show off to friends when you marry and make them jealous of you. Your age is adding up and it is time to marry so you can't choose anymore, just marry one who is nearest. You parents are giving you unbearable pressure so you just marry to quiet down your parents. You are lonely and want to have a married life even without true love. You don't believe that love is ever lasting and everything can be lost later. You life is so simple and boring and you want to use marriage to change that.
3. MARRIAGE FOR MONEY: You believe that money is everything, without it love has no future. You think money can overcome everything and you will have a safe and secure future for yourself, your family and your future kids. Right of wrong? judge it yourself.
4. MARRIAGE OF MUTUAL BENEFIT: The girl has something the man wants or the man has something the girls wants, that could handsome, good looks, good life experience, good job, intelligent, popular, good social skills, humorous, etc.
5. MARRIAGE FOR MATERIAL: Parents often require the guy to have a house or good government job before agreeing to the marriage. Whether there is true love or reliable is secondary or unimportant.
6. COHABIT (Live together without marriage):
There is love or there is not much love. The is some reason you can't marry each other. You do not want to lose your partner. Live together without commitment. Some cohabitation have lasted for many years of whole lifetime. Some even have children. Some have separated after a certain time, just like divorce in marriage. Whether this is acceptable depends on the person himself or herself.
7. MARRIAGE FOR RELOCATION: You do not like the place where you are living. You want to marry to a bigger or more advanced city, province or country. You use marriage to reach that place.
8. FORCED MARRIAGES: Parents force their daughters to marry someone the parents choose because of customs, social benefit, or some other favorable returns. Sometimes it is also for getting dowry (marriage gifts).
We all have to ask ourselves, how many people are marrying for real love? Are there many? I don't think so. May be less than half the people marry is for real love.
FREEDOM AFTER MARRIAGE:
You mentioned about freedom after marriage. In reality, marriage is often the end of personal freedom and freedom is transferred to family life. People are now trying to change that and some people wish to have complete freedom to do the things they like after marriage. Whether this is right or wrong is questionable and debatable.
Sometimes we don't have much choice when it comes to marriage. We are just like a fallen tree in a fast flowing river, let the water bring us to wherever it takes us. Some people choose to leave it to fate "yuan fen". Just hope that two people together can be everlasting and happy.
- Reply ybq1215
- friend above is really adept at english writing , and has written so much .
i think what matters more in case of love and freedom is largely determined by one's outlook and view of about himself . if you desire for feedom , i think one has better keep an appropriate distance from love which may become an obstacle as our world evolves , but providing you put too much value upon love and family lives , i think you had better search for your lovers in the this multitudes .
- Reply littlegrass
- sunnyv: First, we have to admit that in today's realistic society, there are several types of real marriages and artificial marriages. Those marriages can beThanks for my learning more about marriage through your comprehensive and detailed exposition. You can say it again. As we all know, we cannot have our cake and eat it. So we cannot have marriage and at the same time we can easily possess freedom everybody is desired of. Marriage mainly means much responsibility and committion and devotion to the family, while freedom fails to accomplish them.
- Reply littlegrass
- ybq1215: friend above is really adept at english writing , and has written so much .You are telling me! As our ancient saying goes: Fish and bear's paw cannot simultaneously be possessed.
i think what matters more in case of love and freedom is largely determin
- Reply venus
- I don't think marriage means the lost the freedom. Wise husband or wife knows how to leave space to his/her companion.
- Reply ybq1215
- littlegrass: You are telling me! As our ancient saying goes: Fish and bear's paw cannot simultaneously be possessed.hehe .right ,
- Reply huckabee
- The biggest problem in marriage and love is that one, unlike the mountains or the seas changing imperceptibly, is growing up and gain experiences all one's life, which in many cases will deepen the initially insignificant gap between people till the filling up of which is impossible. Those who discreetly keep a distance might well end up in a successful marriage, at least according to the accepted beliefs. Nowadays the young are much more free in choosing their partners, whether with the intent of marriage, cohabitation or temporary mutual needs. Premarital cohabitation is not a bad thing, for it provides an opportunity for one another to decide on whether they are the perfect match. Passion dwindles gradually while tender feelings build up daily stronger. Commitment to and care for each other is the pillar support of marriage and family.
- Reply littlegrass
- leo: my choice? love and freedom. lol.So witty you are!
- Reply littlegrass
- Right.But in actual fact, it is not easy to do that.
- Reply littlegrass
- venus: I don't think marriage means the lost the freedom. Wise husband or wife knows how to leave space to his/her companion.Right.But in actual fact, it is not easy to do that.
- Reply littlegrass
- GXYeats: Those who take love as a prison will eventually make it.You bet.
- Reply littlegrass
- You're right. Nowadays not so many more terribe and unhappy marriages occurrs in our country than in the past. About marriage, our people are open and sagacious and much more prudent.
- Reply littlegrass
- huckabee: The biggest problem in marriage and love is that one, unlike the mountains or the seas changing imperceptibly, is growing up and gain experiences allYou're right. Nowadays not so many more terribe and unhappy marriages occurrs in our country than in the past. About marriage, our people are open and sagacious and much more prudent.
- Reply littlegrass
- 2010jj: it is a tough choice, but try to choose them when you have love.But in actual fact, many people will give up freedom in the sake of love.
- Reply littlegrass
- 2amlittle:
