My friend have told me that she had realized the reality and  she didn't know how to face the reality in marriage. Her boyfriend's family is not rich, but according to her hometown's custome the minimum money  the boy should give the girl's family is 1.3 thousand in order to marry the girl. So my friend ask me the minimun money the boy should give the girl's family in my hometown, she said that because in her family the minimum money is 1.3 thousand when her sister and brother get married the minimum money is 1.3 thousand, and she said that if she can't receive the same money not only will she lose face but also her parents. My suggestion to her is that if you love him then your face is not that important, but she said that marrige is different from amativeness.