Yesterday my husband and I nearly had a quarrel with each other.

The real reason is money. It’s a long story and stay patient for my utterance. Last month in October, my husband’s grandpa came to ShangHai to see a doctor and lived at our house for a month. My grandpa actually took 15K and we two prepared to scrape together 55K for his operation (almost all the money were borrowed from his boss or from my relatives), as his last similar operation costs 70K RMB. And last this operation fee turned out to 3K.

You might wonder to know, why the grandson took money for operation. He’s the sole child of the family?

No no, just opposite, his grandpa his two sons and two grandsons. That is our uncle and my father-in-law. My husband’s logic is: they both families are hard to make end meet and no extra money at hand, and we now have the ability to get the money, why let them worry about the thing. The second reason is my husband was raised by the grandpa. And the other is that grandpa gave us 10K for our house buying several years ago.

Of course the last two reasons are concluded by me, my husband just think the first reason makes sense. Actually even without any reason, my husband takes it granted for the fee.

So I happily and actively borrowed the money for our grandpa, who didn’t say anything in the whole month we staying together. And I have no any personal unsatisfactory feeling for his response. I think it’s known to everyone’s heart. That’s enough.

Yesterday, my husband told me that he intend to withdraw money for his grandpa’s another illness, which was checked out and needed transfer to a big hospital for re-check. The situation was our money was deposited eleven months ago into a domestic private company. You can get the deposit interest for a whole year, or you only get your own capital sum. When learned this, my husband’s response was to withdraw the money with regardless of the interest, or borrowed again from my parents. The latter choice was objected by me instantly, as my grandpa’s previous two operations were partially borrowed from my relatives. And this third operation I couldn’t open the mouth for help.

Last two operations, my father-in-law payed the operation price (actually the payment was payed back to him by grandpa) and the second is my husband (we spent 15K actually and told grandpa don’t pay back to us.). My husband’s uncle didn’t say a word for this arrangement. The third time he looked after our grandpa without a penny at hand for the upcoming operation. His saying is he had no money at all.

Actually, we three families are all not rich. My mother-in-law had illness for more than a decade and his family was dragged down. They didn’t have bank savings and didn’t take a penny when we bought the house.

I don’t know the actual economic situation of my uncle, yet I think he should pay a portion of operation fee this time. It’s a son’s unshakeable duty.