Last night I sensed my husband was in a tired and depressed state. After my several queries, he said his grandpa  at hometown was ill and at the hospital now. God, once again in a hospital.

It’s a long story. His grandpa is nearly eighty and has several decades of diabetes, heart disease alike. These several years, his illness becomes worsen and has done four or five operations like blood vessel stands. As he didn’t have money (he said so) and most of the operation fees were paid by my father in law, that’s his big son. My father in law has a brother. The two brothers’ family just makes the end meet all the time. Every operation my uncle said he had no money and just paid a small portion of the fees. So my father in law had to pay the fee. Actually his parents ever treated his wife very badly when they’re young. Therefore, the unbalanced shared fees make my mother in law extremely unhappy.

Besides the problem of lacking of money, grandpa has no satisfactory people to take care of him. He had a bad relationship with grandma and they quarreled almost daily even in their seventies. More badly, grandma isn’t good at daily chores like cooking. And she fell over himself days ago and lived in the hospital too.

They won’t live with their sons even in such condition. Not because of the rented house is too small to hold them, but because of they both had a bad relationship with their big daughter-in-law up to now. And the second daughter-in-law is reluctant to make them live together. By the way, the two inharmonious brothers have been doing business outside for decades and lived in two different places in China.

I, as a granddaughter-in-law don’t like such a complicated and unhappy family. Grandpa and grandma have a certain responsibility with their current state. I don’t mean they deserve to be like this. At least their bad relationship with their offspring makes it hard for them to live in their sons’ families, especially to live in a far rented place.

I just want to say, don’t treat your family members rigorously. If there’re warm love among families, when one of the family has troubles, they can work together to create chances to pass through difficulties.