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I felt sorry about my little boy yesterday. Yesterday afternoon I beat and scolded him in order to let me stay alone.
I asked my husband to take him to the play field near our home as my three years old boy had been playing cell phone for one hour or two. Yet they both don’t want to go downstairs and out. Under my repeat asking, my husband pissed off and so do I. My kid didn’t sense my angry and kept playing around me.
I tried to keep him quiet yet it’s hard for an active boy to do this unless he slept. He prayed me to give him phone, I refused determinedly. He prayed again, I began to scold him loudly. He cried in a low voice under quilt. Shortly after, he prayed again, I beat him several times, and he stopped asking for his phone again.
I lay on the bed and felt depressed with my unfair marriage. Why I always do daily trifles at home and a job outside while my husband just does his own job, to the family, his main responsibility is to commend me how to do. It’s very unfair to me.
Meanwhile, my boy began to play his toy train. I commanded him not to make noise and seized his toy violently from him. My aim was to let him sleep, keep quiet or go out. Yet the three requests are difficult to him. He just wanted to stay with me and was reluctant to go out.
From my behavior, I can know that children’s happiness is strongly related with a happy marriage. When one of the parent is in bad temper or in a failure marriage, it’s probably his kid(s) would be deeply affected. I love my kid very much, yet it’s difficult to shout at him or hit him when I hit the roof. For children and myself, I’d try my best to maintain a harmonious marriage.
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- Reply zhouying2012
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Come on my friend, your status is the normal question for the most of the families. Sure include my family, my husband often fucos his job, he take many times to play computer after comes back to home. The most of the housework is done by me mother-in-law (mother of my husband) and me. Sometimes this status is so normal, but the husband need to do something what he could do. Such as wash clothes, play with our children and clean rooms with me etc. You need assign some houswork to your husband so that you wouldn't feel tird or unfair like now. Keep happy!
- Reply sunnyv
- Not long ago, you dreamed to have a normal husband, a healthy child, regular and stable family life. Now your dreams came true, you have everything you wanted and yet you are depressed over those minor things. Do you know that they are millions of people out there in the country hoping just to get married and have a family? Many can only dream and their dreams end up in smoke without result.
I know you are only venting your temporary anger and you actually love and treasure your family. However most of us need to be reminded as to how fortunate we are. We all tend to remember only the negatives things and as as result we develop bad tempers and friction. If you don't show your appreciation to your husband and child, they would lose interest in improving and there would be plenty of arguments and fire flares. Now all you need to do is to relax hold your son up to your face and tell him I am so glad to have you as my son, even though you are so naughty and I want to throw you into the rubbish dump. Also find a good chance to tell your husband that although he makes you angry all the time, you still love him and he is your everything. When there is such a warm, caring feel in the family, there would be smiles and happiness and everyone would be fine. There would be still problems here and there, but, just frown and little and pick up the pieces. Life can never be perfect. Blink and a few years would pass by and when you look back, you should be able to say you built a happy family. Be happy and content with what you have.
- Reply carolyayayaya
- Sometimes, our bad temper will be easily triggered by small things. For example, a bad day at work, being stolen on the bus, untidy house and naughty children...no matter what it is, we should not lose our temper to harm our beloved ones.
You have complaints about your marriage, or to say, your husband. I used to hear that an unhappy marriage is due to the lack of love. It's not difficult to change a person, but we can change ourselves. So never complain, as it is useless. Just try to communicate with your husband and your little boy. Meanwhile, you should try to understand why your kid is so interested in the cellphone, it might because no one wants to play with him, he is lonely. Right?
- Reply lovingfun
- Marrige means daily life. When the honey moon period come to end, each famliy will face the matter of eat, work, rest, relax, etc. Since days after days, we most time do the same routin things, we are easily loose our temper, for we do think that days seem very dull. In addition that, our pressure is very high, now family cannot easily support by one, more often , father and mother work together to make family become better and better.
The problem which you meet is very common in most family. I would like ask you a question? Why the happy family happy , while sad family sad? I guess because different attitude, and ways of living accounts.
I advise you to make a change at once, I don't mean you are wrong. You have to talk with your husband on children's education, make sure that what you do is very necessary. Besides, child are only child, they are hard to cope with, so we have to try many ways to educate them, the worst ways is that we loose our control, and shout at them. Though they cannot understand lots of things, but they are very sensitive, their emotions are easily get hurt, I guess that you should pay more attention on that.
At last, will everything on you is smooth going.
