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I'm always in struggle.Struggle to be looked more beautiful as I know I'm not beautiful,struggle to chase my career dreams,struggle to let my life more fulfilled,struggle to be happier.Sometimes,I really feel tired.I wanna give up,I wanna yield to the reality.I wonder why I can't be a normal girl.At this age,stay in a stable position,catch a boyfriend,get married,live close to parents and maybe in 1 or 2 years,give birth to a baby,just like most of the girls do,living a normal but peaceful life.This kind of life is beautiful,I can use beautiful to describe it.And I believe I can be happy in it.But I know myself better than anyone else,if I really choose it,I'm sure that I'll be sorry for myself not choosing a more adventurous but exciting and glamorous life.I don't know why I'm ambitious,maybe I inherited it from my Dad,he never gave up no matter what kind of situation he was in.He was always optmistic in many nightmares of his life.When my parents owed hundreds thousand 20 years ago,you can imagine at that time,owe a debt of hundreds of thousand,what knid of life we were in.My dad always told my Mom:"Honey,don't worry,we will have milk and bread."In the past 20 years,with ups and downs,he did it.Now my family live in a good condition,I can't say that we are rich,but not bad.We have our own apartment,we have our own car,even though it's not a very big apartment and a top brank car,we got over the toughness.I know if I keep chasing my bright future,I will be alone for a long long time.If I will go to Germany to study,then I can't stay with my parents for several years.Because of the hard study,I can't get a boyfriend,that's what I do now,many friends try to introduce some guys to me,I just refused,I think I can't let them block my way to move forward.Extremes,is there any method to integrate them as one?
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- Reply sunnyv
- Well, there is nothing better than self confidence and the will to suceed. You have it all and allow me to congratulate you for that. Unfortunately, like most other people, you try to blame yourself for failing to try this and that. Do you really believe you would be happier just following blindly, getting a boyfriend off the shelf, geting married and have a kid? I don't think so. The consequence could be divorce or despair. Seems, you only looked at the bright side. Things could turn out otherwise. It is not for you to say, when you can meet your loved one. Fate is at play too. You would be spending your live with your loved one, so he has to be compatible to you otherwise, the result would be regrettable.
Many girls believe that by getting married, they would be happy and fulfilled. Just look carefully around you. Many of them are living a life full of arguments, struggles, family problems, money problems, rent, crying child, low income high endless expenses, instigating relatives and in the end everything collapse onto them. Some may give you an impression of a happy married life, but what is behind it? Do you really know? Yes, the first few years fine, but can it sustain? of A few of them really do succeed in living a fruitful and happy life, but how many? No too many. So what are we supposed to do? Stay single? Certainly not. The future is in your own hands. Look before you leap. What you sow is what you reap.
Friends try introduce boyfriends to you. Fine, but so what if you find a boyfriend? Would you suit them and would they suit you? Would it be happy ever after?
Your father really live a well tested life. He has tasted true bitterness, survived entirely on his own and lives a content and satisfied life. There is nothing that he cannot take now. This is the best kind of life.
You are on the right track. Go forward with confidence.
- Reply tammytao
- sunnyv: Well, there is nothing better than self confidence and the will to suceed. You have it all and allow me to congratulate you for that. Unfortunately, lWow,Sunnyv,first I have to say,Thank you.It's not for your long reply,maybe it's longer than my article,but for your true understanding.Yes,you are right.Not so many people who are happy as what they look,they just hide the dark side of their life behind them.I think I was affected too much by the friends and families around me.At this age,a lot of classmates and friends get married,and it seems that they are very happy.But like what you said,maybe it can't last for long.And now everytime I go back home,my Mom and the other relatives ask me whether I got a boyfriend,when I plan to get married.It really sucks.So sometimes,I tell myself:Tammy,just get married like them.And then you will be as happy as your friends and also let your families satisfied.I think I shouldn't think too much,just follow my own way to go.Just be myself,and then I won't have too much regret.I wonder how old you are,you always have a deep insight of the daily matters.Are you a 80 years old grandpa?
- Reply rowland
- Milk will come, bread will come, everything will come. I think there is no confliction in chasing dreams, catching boyfriend and doing other things. You can hanld everything pretty well in you job, and you will deal with other thing well. As we know, experience is requirement for a job, and I think it is the same as love. I don't desire to marry but I also don't reject a man, right? Work is of course necessary and love is also necessary, because they will accompany us throughout our lives. So on your way to success, you can also seek a nice man and catch him. Love involves a dynamic process of mutual adaption. You don't want to be a failure in love and be turning into a workaholic. When you want to love one day and you will find that you know nothing about love.
- Reply tammytao
- rowland: Milk will come, bread will come, everything will come. I think there is no confliction in chasing dreams, catching boyfriend and doing other things. YDon't marry rashly,but never reject love.Good point.I think it's my own problem that deep in my heart,I deny the co-existing of love and job.Gradually I will overcome my psychological fight and do whatever I want to do and need to do.Thank you for your desirable words.That helps.
- Reply batmand
- Life and work must be detached clearly.When you are off duty,everything about work should be left in the office room.
