i asked a friend out for dinner tonight whose workplace is near to mine. when i was single two years ago, my fore co-worker introduced him to me and hoped we could be together. usually we couldn't predict or control how the story unfolds, because the information is asymmetric. i didn't tell him i was disappointed to meet him at first glance. i tried to persuade myself that appearance was not important as a boyfriend or husband. but when i knew his parents were living in countryside and his family condition was below average, i had made the decision though he was excellent and we had much more common interest. i admire him very much. he went to work after middle-school, and during the working time he studied the on-the-job undergraduate in beijing. because he is good at english and computer skill, after the study he was employed by microsoft as a manager. recently i heard that he had passed the in-the-job graduate examination of peking university. i believe he will be successful in the future.

do you think i am too realistic? when you choose your future partner and maybe for whole life, can we depend on the common standard or insist on your principle? we couldn't predict or control how the life progress, because everything, everybody is changing at all time.