Blogs
His Development Changes
To my great excitement, my younger brother visits NanChang alone today. I appreciate his bravery and courage. He is only 17 years old, and ended his study in this summer. He said: "I am not good at study, I wanna quit school." Actually, both my parents and I didn't get startled by his decision. But this time he really spoke it out decisively. Regarding some of his outlaw beheaviours, we all agreed his dropping out of school unwillingly. Then from September, he started to find a job to make some money. And two months later, he quited it again. Today, it's ought to be a relaxing day for him without work.
Nevertheless, I don't think he is happy. He's changed a lot. He seldom talks and smiles. He rarely takes initiative to say something. Oh, my dear brother, what's the matter with you? You are almost another person. This is called development change. But brother, this is not what I expect to. You are going to be an adult, a true man, who is supposed to be opotimistic, active and positive. Admittly, we have 4 years generation gap. But I am you sister. You could bare your soul to me. I know exactly how do you feel. I could be an excellent listener.
All the time, it's I who start the conversation. And he just makes answers. What I worry most about him is his health and career goal. He is so young that he also doesn't know what to do in the future. At a loss! Well, it's ok. Take your time. Mum and Dad understand you.
He is simply one example. Many boys like him become more independent. They are getting mature and tolerant.
Post comment Comment (9 replies)
- Reply Laura_Lucky
- China's education is too much stresss ,I understand ..but .he is just 17 .so many things he will not understand when he get a job ,that is a problem too ....
- Reply Haiena
- We have to understand that not everyone is good at studies. Don't give him too much pressure. There are other alternatives like technical studies or other routes suitable for him. He can also learn as he work. Many others have succeeded without proper academic qualifications. He would find his own solution. Just let him know that you care about him and would support him in whatever lawful things he does.
- Reply snowflying
- maybe you can talk with him through other ways. in fact, everybody has changes in the growing up, merely some is obvious, some invisible.
- Reply redapple2
- samscri: There must be a reason when somone is unhappy...Find that reason...perhaps invisible pressure.
- Reply redapple2
- Haiena: We have to understand that not everyone is good at studies. Don't give him too much pressure. There are other alternatives like technical studies or othank you for your comment. I am trying to help him by any advisable means. I can't be too wordy, or else he will be sick of it.
- Reply redapple2
- snowflying: maybe you can talk with him through other ways. in fact, everybody has changes in the growing up, merely some is obvious, some invisible.
Hope God could endow me with rich ideas to help him.
- Reply Edelweiss
- I think he is confused about his future and his current situation. Maybe he doesn't know where to go and what to do. He is too young and inexperienced to have deep understanding of the society and his own life. He needs more learning, not necessarily the basic courses in school, but understanding about people and society. We stay in school not just to learn the subjects, but the period of schooling prepares us better to face all the problems we may encounter in society. We deal with classmates, develop our thinking ability, form our personality and view of the world and of life, we hear about what society is like. Schools provide us a safe environment where we fledge as young birds till we are ready to fly. He has not done with his share of schooling yet. Like a young bird tired of life in the nest he gets out of the nest, yet is lost in the big world outside. Either out there in the society or back in the nest he must complete his learning process and find his direction in the course. Wish him luck!
