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I have a friend who alway feel upset about herself.She ever told me about her problem,and ask me for help.But I don't know how to talk with her and make her feel no more painful.So can you give me some advise about my friend's problem?
Oh,right ,my friend is a introverted girl.She is very ambitious and she want to be succeed someday.She wants to learn some useful knowledges and techniques.But these day she feel something terrible because she find something wrong with herself .She does't know how to deal with her love cranky heart.To some extent,she hates herself because she always thinks a lot before doing something,failure or success,happy or sarrow ,and so on .She ever told me that she feel very failure that she even doesn't know how to chat with male.I don't know how to make her happy and how to deal with those problem,so can you give me some advice?
Thanks a lot !
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- Reply sunnyv
- Seems you really care about this friend and wants her to be happy. Very often friends would tell you what is in their heart if you can assure her of secrecy and at the same time tell her about yourself. Explain to her that the bystanders see things more clear and she can listen and have a better overview of things. Encourage her in a caring way without pressuring her too much.
- Reply sddzzqq
- It is not bad to find the problem, but the problem is how to overcome it. So helping her taking it easy at first.
- Reply snowflying
- oh,my friend,your friend seems be some questions indeed.merely,this is a coomon phenomenon in one's growing up,especially in one's youth.like your age,seeing your life,just as my past.everyone passed by one's youth.at present,you don't too worry about the probleme,because be anxious is no use to improving her status.then,follows such as:
at first,you talk with her more and more.you can talk about anything,about study,work ,love,boyfriend,family,classmates,teachers,even society,ect..through talking,you may find her real thoughts in her inner heart.this is the basic above all.
second,you help your her analysise the reason.why she always feel upset and unhappy.seek out all things happened on her recently,especial in her boyfriend.above love ,your youngers have your own views ,she is clearer than you.let she pour out her heart,pour out all of her thinking about anything,thought she is a introverted girl.this is in vital to a introverted girl.i believe you can do this as her good friend.
third,thinking out some methods to make her doing more meaningful things in order to dispersing her attentions.by doing things,she can contact more new persons and more new things.pass a long time ,things maybe get better.
forth,don't be eager for success.any success is not gain overnight.put our efforts continuing ,no stopping,keep lasting all the way. perseverance lead to success,i beieve.not a day,not a night,even not a year achieved.
in addition,once i am a very introverted person in my youth.but i may speak at any meeting freely now.anything can change,if we try enough.
good luck ,my friend.my friend's friend too.
