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A Sparkle of Thought

492 views. 2011-11-27 08:26

These days I have been mysteriously in low spirits. I don’t mean I have been very sad or in a bad mood. I just don’t feel like doing things. Life seems to have lost its charm and there appears to be nothing to live for. I don’t know the causes for sure. Is it the work pressure? Yes but no. Maybe it is the digestion disorders I have had for many years. Recently the problem is getting worse. Perhaps it is the loneliness with my wife and son away. It might be something I’m not aware of subconsciously.

 

Kind of bored with life, I picked up a book, actually one for American high school students. I sat back on the sofa and began to read casually. However, only reading several pages, I was attracted by the story of the novel. The little hero was in a single-engine plane with the pilot headed for the Canadian wilderness, where he would visit his father. Unfortunately the pilot had a heart attack and then died.

 

You can imagine how he felt when he was suddenly thrown into such a situation. You just have no choice high up in the sky. Though the plane was not a complex type, he had never received any training on how to drive a plane. By the memory of how the pilot operated the plane, he somehow kept the plane flying on. When it ran out of fuel, he miraculously managed to touch down on a lake and narrowly escaped being drowned.

 

Life was unfair to this little boy. His parents divorced not long after he saw his mother seeing a blond man secretly. And he had to live with his mother and then his father. Left on a land without any human trace, he nearly mentally broke down. Hunger, cold, and swarms of mosquitoes, the uncontrollable loneliness…, you can imagine what kind of life he led. He must face the devastating truth: “Right now I’m all I’ve got. I have to do something.” He must learn to survive.

 

The same old familiar daily life would make us numb. It could be a sign that we need a break in the routine. A vacation can be one of the solutions. However, it might not be a cure for all. We need something to wake us up. I guess by thinking of a situation like the one the little hero was in, we could change our mood for the better. Yes life is imperfect and many things are just out of our control, but the point is that we should always think positive and stay on top of things. Sometimes we do have to get motivated. The resources you have may be limited, but you at least have yourself, which is the most valuable asset. Don’t forget you are the best thing you have even if you had lost everything else.

 

Life is a river, always moving. When you have a lot of bad stuff happening, remember that doesn’t mean you will never succeed. Life is not a dirt pond. Fresh water is flowing down from the source and on the way. Loser or winner, all have become history. You can always start all over again.

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Reply Laura_Lucky 2011-11-27 08:57
yes sometims you need add more fun too your life ,you willl forget the boring feeling .that is life ... .there are red flags when you encounter this feel ...so remember this time the day you read this story ,, life need sparkle need fun like salt in dishes
Reply rich 2011-11-27 13:51
Laura_Lucky: yes sometims you need add more fun too your life ,you willl forget the boring feeling .that is life ... .there are red flags when you encounter this f
you're right. i think i'll think of this story when i'm low or things are difficult. no matter what, stay positive!  there's nothing to complain about.
Reply sunnyv 2011-11-27 16:47
Hey buddy, don't worry about that. Seems it is only a midlife crises (MLC) which you are through. Don't let all the jokes and stereotyping about MLC affect you. MLC is no big deal in western societies and people are going through these crises calmly. Midlife crises occurs from the age 40 to 60. I am still too young to experience MLC, but I have friends who have gone through all this and I know what it is like and what needs to be done. These are some of the symptoms of MLC;

* Restlessness, anxiety or irritability
* Feelings of pessimism or hopelessness
* Change in sleeping habits, fatigue
* Loss of interest in activities once enjoyed
* Physical aches or pains or gastrointestinal upset that don't respond to treatment
* Feeling newly discontent with your lifestyle
* Doubting decisions you have made about your life
* Feeling bored with things and people
* Feeling adventurous
* Questioning the meaning and value of your existence
* Confused about who you are, or where your life is going
* Questioning the choices, they have made in their lives and the validity of decisions they made years before

Midlife crisis is a symptom of the modern age and it can be confusing, disorienting and unpleasant. It is often unsettling, but it is also transformational - it's like a second growing-up, and you'll probably emerge from it a better human being.

In adolescence, we must let go of childhood and dependent relationships before we can become adults. Similarly, in midlife, there is some letting go involved, which can be difficult. For example, mid-life is called "the second identity crises" because we must let go of our obsolete self-image and move into a better one. We may also have to let go of ideas about what we thought was important, in order to take up new ones. All of this amounts to a search for meaning.

It typically begins with mild twinges of dread, disappointment and restlessness that tiptoe in on little cat feet. Then in some cases, the cat feet turn to elephant feet.

Don't give way. Midlifers in crisis are often overwhelmed with fear. Everything they once relied on--both physical and emotional resources--seems ready to collapse. The tendency is to panic, to give way to the onslaught of anxiety. If this how you are feeling Rich, relax. What you are experiencing is both normal and temporary. Not only will you see a brighter day; you will emerge a better person.

Finally, midlifers in crisis describe themselves as trapped in a dark tunnel with no light at the end. Why keep crawling toward the end if, one, we aren't sure in which direction the end lies; and, two, we don't know if there will be light there when we arrive?

This is where determination comes in. At midlife, we must decide what we believe in and struggle toward it even when our progress seems negligible. Like astronauts circling the back side of the moon, we trust the principles that began our journey to complete it, even when our destination is hidden. And like the same astronauts, we will see our sun again, quite possibly in a richness and splendor unnoticed in former days.

I'm not saying all this is easy; it isn't. But it is our hope, and it's hope that eventually will see us through the midlife crisis.

What you are experiencing is perfectly normal rich!. We all have to go through that stage of life. Keep going. You can make it.
Reply louislaolu 2011-11-27 19:44
sunnyv: Hey buddy, don't worry about that. Seems it is only a midlife crises (MLC) which you are through. Don't let all the jokes and stereotyping about MLC a
Amazing! Are you a professional in treating MLC? I seem to be going into such a crisis, though I am not sure whether I've reached the middle age or not. Some of the symptoms have been with me for a few years
Reply sunnyv 2011-11-27 20:36
louislaolu: Amazing! Are you a professional in treating MLC? I seem to be going into such a crisis, though I am not sure whether I've reached the middle age or no
Hi Louislaolu. I am not a professional in treating MLC. This condition is nothing new. Most people goes through the process around middle age. Strange things do happen to the the affected person but there is nothing to worry about as I have mentioned above. It is much easier to handle the depressive conditions if you know about the causes and how to overcome them.
Reply rich 2011-11-27 21:10
sunnyv: Hey buddy, don't worry about that. Seems it is only a midlife crises (MLC) which you are through. Don't let all the jokes and stereotyping about MLC a
Hi my friend! thank you for telling me so much. i think you're right. i just didn't realize it might be MLC. yes we all have to go through different stages with different joys and troubles. knowing this would help me deal wiith it calmly. i don't suppose this is a big problem. it comes occasionally and doesn't lasts very long. So i guess i'm able to cope with it.
you seem to come here less. are you as busy? is everything ok with you? Happy Thanksgiving! it is a bit late, though. so glad to hear from you again.
Reply louislaolu 2011-11-27 21:23
sunnyv had said what I had heard about MLC and what I haven't, leaving nothing for me to say. I'd like to share my experience in fighting off gastrointestinal upset. In addition to the teaching occupation, we have one more thing in common, i.e, both are thin as a result of stomach disorder ( which is revealed by the photo you uploaded; I am kind of confused why male English teachers have to look like that). I can't agree with sunnyv more. Gastrointestinal upset responds to neither Chinese nor western medical treatment. I don't go to hospital anymore for my stomach problem. Following my colleague's advice, I usually eat noodles and steamed bread for three meals. Since my stomach is weak, I delibrately avoid indigestable food. I even removed rice off my diet. I've been sticking to that diet for more than a year. To my delight, I find myself gaining weight. My non-professional recipe might work for you. Even if not, it does you no harm at least. Just try it out, my friend. Wish you the best of luck!
Reply rich 2011-11-27 21:28
snowflying: dear rich, what sunny said right in some extent, but to you, if now you have some signs of menopause, i think too early. as a person of 70s , we shoul
thank you for your care. i like your interpretation of life: life is a ship always sailing ahead. i totally agree that  life is to be enjoyed, no matter what.
as humans, we're all likely to be in low spirits sometimes. mine might have something to do with midage, as sunny said. however, it is not a big deal. i believe i will get ove it.
it's getting late. go to bed early and sleep tight. :-)
Reply louislaolu 2011-11-27 21:50
One more thing, you have a beautiful dream car, haven't you? So cheer up, try to look at the rosy sides of life.
Reply rich 2011-11-27 21:53
louislaolu: sunnyv had said what I had heard about MLC and what I haven't, leaving nothing for me to say. I'd like to share my experience in fighting off gastroin
Hi buddy! i seem to have found a bosom friend, one that knows me well. i do have a weak stomach and as you said, both chinese and western medicine don't help much. I'll definitely try your recipe. thank you sooo much for your kind advice.
summer is the worst time for my stomach, but since the beginning of autumn, things have been better. of course i have to be very careful about the food i have. i also need to change my eating habit. i habitually eat very fast, which could be one of the causes.
Reply rich 2011-11-27 21:56
louislaolu: One more thing, you have a beautiful dream car, haven't you? So cheer up, try to look at the rosy sides of life.
yeah, actually life is good. nothing to complain about. thank you. i think i will survive. hehe. :-)
Reply bluephoebe 2011-11-28 11:31
There are times we are extremely vulnerable to the bouts of depressions----not for some particular reason, just all of sudden life has lost its attractions—nothing matters, nothing is good enough for us to hold on. I guess such things happened to everyone. A good book might help and a trip sometimes also works. But the most important way out is how we deal with it. And you did pretty well
Reply bluephoebe 2011-11-28 11:36
sunnyv: Hey buddy, don't worry about that. Seems it is only a midlife crises (MLC) which you are through. Don't let all the jokes and stereotyping about MLC a
seems that i've suffered from all aboved symptom at different age: in 10's, in 20's, and in 30's--not period, of course, just occasionally, so what it makes me?
Reply rich 2011-11-28 11:49
bluephoebe: There are times we are extremely vulnerable to the bouts of depressions----not for some particular reason, just all of sudden life has lost its attrac
i'm much better now, especially after reading the comments and advice you guys kindly gave me. i feel warm in my heart. yes as you said we can be vulnerable sometimes. after all, we are all humans. today is sunny, nice and warm. it seems a wonderful day has begun. thank you for your support and understanding.
Reply susiee 2011-11-28 21:08
People who think too much are easy to frustrate or have a low spirit.So I sometimes envy those guys with a simple head .They will be very excited just because of some trivial things and easy to be content with their lives.
Reply rich 2011-11-29 21:26
susiee: People who think too much are easy to frustrate or have a low spirit.So I sometimes envy those guys with a simple head .They will be very excited just
totally agree. it takes many years' self-cultivation or improvement to be one who can live a truly natural and calm life, without being influenced by various temptations. maybe that's why some people say life is a spiritual journey.

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