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The fourth anniversary of wife's death
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Wife died of breast cancer at the age of 40 on the morning of August 10, 2009. In the evening her body was rushed to the crematorium in the provincial capital and put into a freezing coffin with a transparent cover. Otherwise, her corpse would give off an unpleasant smell in the hot weather then. I accompanied her the whole night with elder brother. The following day she was cremated and her ashes were encased and deposited there. Since then every year around the anniversary of her death I would visit her there with son. On such occasions I would say something consoling to her before her cinerary casket under gaze from her picture on the front of it. The first time I burst into convulsive sobs as I murmured to her. Besides, we burnt some sacrificial paper for her at the first two times and in the last two times we offered her a white chrysanthemum each instead. Yesterday we paid her a routine visit which took us a whole morning.
Post comment Comment (6 replies)
- Reply zjczjhappy
- In the past years before I saw the death of my friend's dad in person,I never ever thought that death is so close to us.I have been afraid of the death ever since, even I know life must move on.At time like this,any consolation can work. Anyway, life is short and we should cherish it
- Reply fleaf
- I have to admit and accept the truth that everyone will die, every one we love, every one we hate... That's terrible... Treasure everything you have.
- Reply ocean0721
- She was a lucky woman with your love. She'll be happy if you take good care of your son and yourself.
- Reply sunnyv
- My own sister died of breast cancer, so I know what it is about. This is quite a common disease. At first a nurse misdiagnosed and said it was nothing serious. Later when it became serious, she seen a specialist doctor who said she was already in the final stages of the disease. Eventually, the doctors admitted that there was no effective cure for this disease and suggest discontinue those invasive treatment so that she can passed the remaining time peacefully without pain. She went on for 2 years and passed away on September 3. It is such a horrible experience to go through the funeral process. She was reposed cosmetically at the funeral home to look her best and she did look beautiful. Then there was remembrance services. Finally, it was the agonizing journey to the crematorium where I had to place the body into the burner, push a button and collected the ashes. It is daunting to see a life end just that and vanish. Finally, I had to follow our custom practices, brought the tidy bag of ashes by boat to the clean waters of the ocean and deposited the ashes into the clear waters and watch it go deep down into the waters.
