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Chinese men unlucky or kids lucky? (中国男人的不幸还是中国孩子的幸福?)
Chinese women have their deep love to their family, including their husband and their baby. But further explore the Chinese women’s love between the two persons they love most both in this world, what a answer on earth? Husband or baby? Who is the first "number one" in a woman's inner heart on earth?
There is a famous research to Chinese women who have married and have given birth too. Now you see the simple question asked to the Chinese women: Who is the most love person in your heart? Who is the person you can’t leave in this world? The answers which the Chinese women gave nearly amazing same: My baby! Another action research just proved the same results of Chinese women’s choices in heart. Among husband and baby, most of Chinese women choosed to sit together with baby instead of husband in public.
As the research to foreign women, the result is opposite entirely. Most of them said husband is their most first love instead of their kid, even an old grandma can say out their most love in this world is her husband with great proud crossed husband’s arm in public:My most love is my husband in this world!
Some other researches to Chinese women’s actions showed most Chinese women do care their kids more than their husbands, even some wives sleep together with baby for many years ignoring the unluchy husband. Love is exclusive, family’s love also has a balance. I’m a wife instead of a husband, don’t know my wife ignore me wholly whether at daytime or nighttime, can the couple love reduce someway? All love gave kids really is real happiness and benefit for a family whether to husband or kid?
Couple’s love is normal, tied a whole family firmly. To kids, we should let them learn what‘s love and how to love future. Parent’s love is kid’s teacher someway. Why our couple’s love expression can’t show before kids? If a boy saw nothing from his dad, how to love his girl future? If a girl saw her mom care less to his father, how to care her husband more future? As a Chinese couple, maybe we are not good at speaking out sometimes, but we should teach our kids how to do a healthy person, how to love others, how to love family, how to love your another half. Husband is the person who we live together with our whole lifetime instead of kids, husband should be the one who can live together with a woman till life ending in this world, no any other person can be replaced in a woman’s life, so husband’s position should be the number one, can’t be replaced by others,even kids.
But my question is, how many Chinese women realized the family love truth in their mind? how many Chinese women can do it well? including myself. My love to daughter more than my husband? maybe. Chinese husband’s unlucky or Chinese kid’s lucky?
Post comment Comment (37 replies)
- Reply snowflying
- bluephoebe: Do we need to make a choice between the husband and the child? Why can't we love them equally? Why not choose to sit between them in public? For me, iahaaa, that's my puzzle too,so we are all tipical chinese wife. actually, that's only a research. i test myself's mind too through it, i'm trying to be a open-minded person, trying to receieve all kinds of thoughts, trying to learn from all different persons too. but still some outdated,heheeee
- Reply snowflying
- TDD: my mum love me more than she love my father..and it is the same with my father.haha..Your parents love you more than anybody in the world as you lovenice to meet you here ,my friend. actually each at least most of chinese family like your parents too. so we chinese parents really great in the world. they are devoting their whole love to kids. our family too, hehe....
- Reply snowflying
- samscri:glad to see you again, my friend.
I think I could understand that, because I love my dog much more than my BF...
aaaaaa?????????? what's meaning???? love your dog more than your bf?????? funny but puzzle,ahaaaaa....
- Reply snowflying
- geologistchen: tell the truth your english writing is excellent ,you are the mother of a baby? er, no wonder so deep do you realise the problem.every baby live in chglad to see you back ,my friend. to be frank, my english writing help with the youdao, otherwise, i can't write anything actually. now you know what a poor i'm!!!! ahaaaa
i'm a mum, i have a gaughter. this new thoghts from a research let me thinking about family's love. to baby, any chinese family spent whole energy, each parents love their baby more than themselves, that's chinese family fact. but my question is why some kid is selfish to their parents still??? parent's love is too more??? why so many youngers went into prison still???? certainly ,most kids are good and great wonderful, my daughter is, i believe you too.
- Reply geologistchen
- so happy to see you again and have the chance to discuss the question with you.Autually,it's a problem about china education,sometimes,some parents shift their love for the children to a kind of fondness that give them what they want and even they don't need,arrange everything for them,solve every problem and difficulty they meet and so on.For long time .this may cause a pseudo image for the children that everything having done by the parents is should be done for them which is great tragedy. but from your article i can see you are a good educator in family and live.
- Reply IMNONARCISSUS
- I am afraid most Chinese women and men love their children more deeply than their husbands or wives.
- Reply snowflying
- geologistchen: so happy to see you again and have the chance to discuss the question with you.Autually,it's a problem about china education,sometimes,some parents shreally great thoughts!! sometimes i really feel puzzle to those kids who went to another way in their young age ,so earlier, so pity, even some sad. because i'm a mum, i can understand what a feeling from a mum if she saw her kid done some intolerable mistakes. such as the famous college student named Yaojiaxin who studied from Xian music college. what a pity to the kid! what a sorrow to his parents! what a eternal hurt and pain to his family even several families!! love is right, but what a correct is value for our kids, really some profound in the chinese family, maybe as a common mum, as a small social person, as a common worker, i can't figue it out. heheeeee
- Reply snowflying
- BouneXiao: Who takes most of the responsibilities?? No comments.aaaaaa??????? my friend, some puzzled surely. what's meaning the first sentence??? 谁最负责?
- Reply snowflying
- IMNONARCISSUS: I am afraid most Chinese women and men love their children more deeply than their husbands or wives.heheeee, you are right. the research result just proved it. kids always is the first number one in chinese families.
- Reply IMNONARCISSUS
- snowflying: heheeee, you are right. the research result just proved it. kids always is the first number one in chinese families.That is not very proper indeed at the same time.
- Reply samscri
- snowflying: glad to see you again, my friend.Hehe...That's possibly the situation right now...
aaaaaa?????????? what's meaning???? love your dog more than your bf?????? funny but puzzle,ahaaaaa....[em:...I mean female usually love their child more than their BF...since I treat my puppy as my child...cause I basicly raised her up all by my own...
- Reply snowflying
- samscri: Hehe...That's possibly the situation right now...oh, i see. but what a poor bf...I mean female usually love their child more than their BF...since I treat my puppy as my ch
- Reply dancing-cloud
- They both are our best lover
- Reply snowflying
- dancing-cloud: They both are our best loverso equal love to them? maybe we should, but i love my daughter more.
- Reply Richardren
- such a great article, no wonder it attracted so many attentions, and i didn't read this wonderful blog of yours until today, haha! i had actually discussed this question with my wife before we had a child, i told her i would love her more even after we have a child, what actually turned out now is that she became the one who loves the child more than loves me. i must introdue her to this arcle, haha
- Reply snowflying
- Richardren: such a great article, no wonder it attracted so many attentions, and i didn't read this wonderful blog of yours until today, haha! i had actually discoh??? you have turned it out from so long time blog list??? so thanks for your reading. to be frank, your wife is not the mere one woman, in fact, most of women are so easy to love more and more to their kids than to their husbands, me too. heihei...
so we chinese women need richen our horizon to rise ourselves and cultivive our kids. as a research, 80% wisdom of kids come from their mum. so our duty is so great and responsible for our next generation. but i believe your wife must play a perfect role in your small family. wish your daughter happy as well as your couple.heihei..
