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What's the complicated thing in the world? Different people have different opinions. For a single person, maybe different views will appear during different periods. From my point of view, loving relationship is the most complicated thing in the world. I say this not because I have suffered a lot, but because I have witnesssed so many love tragedies. Finally I come to a conclusion, namely, woman pays.
Females are vulnerable groups all the time, despite the fact that females' social situation has been improved. Males are born to be viewed as they are superior to females. Feudal thought, which value the male child only, still exist in some places. Believe it or not, once at table, I heard that a guest's husband divorced with her just because they have only a daugther. The man's traditional view pushed him to find another wife and finally he had a son. To my surprise, his second wife is a hair-salon girl, maybe sexy I guess. But he himself graduated from civil engineering department of a famous university. How ridiculous it is! He told his ex-wife that he was unhappy because he had no communication with the second wife. He even asked the ex-wife did a wife's duty. Is that a truth that males wanna have several wives at the same time? A man has thousands of mistresses could only be the imperial in the remote past, not a man in the modern society. I can't bear such absurdity.
However, nowadays mistresses are here and there. According to a survey, the principal reason for divorce is the extramarital affair. A piece of news about the intermediary for college students as mistresses stun many people. Actually, it is a common phenomenon in campus life. I despise such college students, meanwhile I think they are so poor. They have to suffer the consequences of their own doings at last. So sad. I still remember last summer a friend asked me to get a part-time in a bar together with her. I suggested her not going that kind of places. In my view, it is not safe in a bar, let alone to work there during night. She is indeed an unsophisticated girl, simplifying something complicated. Later, she borrowed some clothes from me, because the boss of the bar asked them to wear fashionable skirt to attract other male customers. I persuaded her again and again not to go there, but in vain. I have nothing to say, telling her take care and call me as long as she need help. At the beginning life was peaceful, and maybe I worried too much, I thought. But I leaped to a conclusion this time. She became a policeman's girlfriend, who spoke many honeyed words but failed to fulfill his promises. I persuaded her again, still in vain. I even gave such a warn that she could be a mistress unwittingly. All what I said didn't pall on her. I just hoped things were not so bad. Unfortunately, what I predicated was true. She got hurt and even didn't dare to tell me until I asked her about it. God knows how aching I was the moment she told me the truth, although I had intuition she was cheated, I still could not accept such bitter reality. I sighed, really, woman pays.
For me, I still believe in true love. I am not so sure the love I give will be directly propotional to the love I recieve, I am still willing to give my love. Yes, I've said, I will be always with you as long as you never leave me. You must make me believe in love, otherwise... I just can't imagine it.
Females are vulnerable groups all the time, despite the fact that females' social situation has been improved. Males are born to be viewed as they are superior to females. Feudal thought, which value the male child only, still exist in some places. Believe it or not, once at table, I heard that a guest's husband divorced with her just because they have only a daugther. The man's traditional view pushed him to find another wife and finally he had a son. To my surprise, his second wife is a hair-salon girl, maybe sexy I guess. But he himself graduated from civil engineering department of a famous university. How ridiculous it is! He told his ex-wife that he was unhappy because he had no communication with the second wife. He even asked the ex-wife did a wife's duty. Is that a truth that males wanna have several wives at the same time? A man has thousands of mistresses could only be the imperial in the remote past, not a man in the modern society. I can't bear such absurdity.
However, nowadays mistresses are here and there. According to a survey, the principal reason for divorce is the extramarital affair. A piece of news about the intermediary for college students as mistresses stun many people. Actually, it is a common phenomenon in campus life. I despise such college students, meanwhile I think they are so poor. They have to suffer the consequences of their own doings at last. So sad. I still remember last summer a friend asked me to get a part-time in a bar together with her. I suggested her not going that kind of places. In my view, it is not safe in a bar, let alone to work there during night. She is indeed an unsophisticated girl, simplifying something complicated. Later, she borrowed some clothes from me, because the boss of the bar asked them to wear fashionable skirt to attract other male customers. I persuaded her again and again not to go there, but in vain. I have nothing to say, telling her take care and call me as long as she need help. At the beginning life was peaceful, and maybe I worried too much, I thought. But I leaped to a conclusion this time. She became a policeman's girlfriend, who spoke many honeyed words but failed to fulfill his promises. I persuaded her again, still in vain. I even gave such a warn that she could be a mistress unwittingly. All what I said didn't pall on her. I just hoped things were not so bad. Unfortunately, what I predicated was true. She got hurt and even didn't dare to tell me until I asked her about it. God knows how aching I was the moment she told me the truth, although I had intuition she was cheated, I still could not accept such bitter reality. I sighed, really, woman pays.
For me, I still believe in true love. I am not so sure the love I give will be directly propotional to the love I recieve, I am still willing to give my love. Yes, I've said, I will be always with you as long as you never leave me. You must make me believe in love, otherwise... I just can't imagine it.
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- Reply rich
- you raised a serious, but realistic topic. in many cases it's true that womaen or girls are at a disadvantage in real social life. that's why we have specific laws concerning protecting women and children. however, i personally believe that if a girl has some necessary awareness of self protection and is not so material-minded, things would be quite different.
- Reply kevin--tan
- i sighed too after the reading.you are full of wishdom to refuse temptations which make you betray your true love.but you friend is not lucky as you.what to say just a sigh.
- Reply Sheena1208
- rich: you raised a serious, but realistic topic. in many cases it's true that womaen or girls are at a disadvantage in real social life. that's why we haveI agree with you. Females should raise awareness of self-protection. Everyone has his right to choose the way of life. As it goes, one careless move loses the whole game, we should be discreet about every crossroad in life. If females themselves choose to be inferior to males, they lose. As for that friend, I have done what I could do. It's her choice. There is no help for it.
- Reply Sheena1208
- kevin--tan: i sighed too after the reading.you are full of wishdom to refuse temptations which make you betray your true love.but you friend is not lucky as you.wMy boyfriend told me he wouldn't contact with me anymore if I got a part-time job like that. Actually he knew I would not. I guess my parents would be mad and drive me from home ever since. My friend's outlook on life is totally different from me. But we were good friends when we were enrolled in the university, even though we came from different classes. She changed, not the one I knew before. What a pity.
- Reply Sheena1208
- yaping:So you are one of members who don't believe in love. I guess you will change your mind when you meet the right one. Good luck.
Love,in fact I don't believe in it, but I am still looking forward to meet it~
- Reply yaping
- Sheena1208: So you are one of members who don't believe in love. I guess you will change your mind when you meet the right one. Good luck.Eel,maybe.... and thank u for ur words !
- Reply Sheena1208
- yaping: Eel,maybe.... and thank u for ur words !
Have a good day. Heihei.
- Reply happyrong_er
- yes, woman pays, not only about love, but also many other aspects, such as to deliver a baby, to raise the child, to take care of the family and so on...
- Reply Sheena1208
- happyrong_er: yes, woman pays, not only about love, but also many other aspects, such as to deliver a baby, to raise the child, to take care of the family and so onYeah. But some are men of women. They are talent, confident, successful and they are reluctant to sacrifice their own career to contribute themselves to the whole family.
- Reply lwj2k8
- It happens everywhere, so i don want to comment this sort of issue too much here, though we all know it is wrong.
However, i remember a joke, ‘if you complain the unfaithful love is because of men, then who were slept with them?' , obviously, it is not a tricky question to many people.
Your friend, she perhaps was ignorant, but not stupid and blind.
However, love is blind.
I desire romantic love, but i don want to be a loser of love.
Best wishes for your true love!
- Reply Sheena1208
- lwj2k8: It happens everywhere, so i don want to comment this sort of issue too much here, though we all know it is wrong.Indeed it is a sensitive issue. In such a materialistic socity, true love is nothing to certain people. Today I saw a dialogue, a man asked his beloved girl, will you marry me? The girl turned him down because his house ss rent, he only has bycile, his salary is 20,000 yuan a year. She also asked in reply, whereby will you marry me? The man said because I love you. The girl continued, love is nothing. Two years later, the man made a proposal to the girl again, they got married, because the man has luxurious house, his car is BMW, what's more he is a somebody now. Ten years later, the man wanted to divorce, his wife asked why, the man said you are only the exchange for my house, car and money, now I find a girl younger, more beautiful than you. You said you love me, answered his wife, the man said said I did but you refused my proposal, the second time I didn't say I love you.
However, i remember a joke, ‘if you
Such a long dialogue, but it is really enlightening.
Thank you for your kind words. Wish you will find true love.
- Reply lwj2k8
- Enlighten? Exactly, but i don think the girl was totally doing wrong, especially in such a materialistic socity, as what u said!
If your friend was born in a rich family, probably she wouldn't go to be a waitress in a bar. I guess.
However, i can't blindly say the man was wrong too, even though he married the woman just for revenge, he perhaps gave the girl ten years happy life.
In my mind, sometimes, people would have to pay for their offence someday.
Thank you for your wishes too!
- Reply Sheena1208
- lwj2k8: Enlighten? Exactly, but i don think the girl was totally doing wrong, especially in such a materialistic socity, as what u said!So this question is too complicated. I think the dialogue warned those girls only want to money, house, car to take careful consideration towards the marriage concept. Actually, I don't like that kind of girl who only have an eye for money. It's potential, intelligence and personality to be considered, not only the marital life.
If your friend was bo
- Reply lwj2k8
- Sheena1208: So this question is too complicated. I think the dialogue warned those girls only want to money, house, car to take careful consideration towards the
me too....and i also like the kind of girls, who u mention, so much....haha....but i understand why she made the choice...
- Reply Sheena1208
- lwj2k8:I guess you leaved out a word "don't" before "like", am I right? Heihei..me too....and i also like the kind of girls, who u mention, so much....haha....but i understand why she made the choice...
- Reply JeffLee
- True love?I don't believe in it.The true love is created on the top of money.If you haven't enough money,you'd better don't close to it.
- Reply Sheena1208
- JeffLee: True love?I don't believe in it.The true love is created on the top of money.If you haven't enough money,you'd better don't close to it.Haha...If you are wealthy, surely many young girls will be attracted. But the question is, that they approach you is due to love or something else. Anyway, love is too complicated, involving too many elements, not as pure as before.
