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The other day, a friend sent a text message to me, saying she quarrelled with her Mom about the job she have now and felt stressful. She got a job in Guangzhou in March, not well-paid. I just cannot believe it when she told me her boyfriend's salary is lower than hers. Her Mom was always asking her to take the Civil Service Examination or to become a teacher. She didn't want to go back to the hometown. Because she is not alone, she has to take her boyfriend into consideration. You should tell your Mom it is not easy to become a teacher or a civil servant nowadays, if you don't someone behind you, even if you pass the examination, you will rejected at last, answered me. Although I know it is really difficult to find a nice job for a college gradutes, many classmates responded to me job market in Guangdong Province is much better than Hunan Province, especially to English majors. She told me after probation the salary is 2000 yuan a month, but some classmates as interns now can get nearly 2500 yuan, so I advised her not to be afraid of changing job until she finds a satisfying one.
Another friend who will graduate from Hunan Business College desired to find a job in Changsha, but all her efforts were in vain. Actually she signed a contact with a company in Dongguan. She took the interview sucessfully when the company came to Changsha to recruit college graduates. Later she regretted to work in another city, far away from home. Maybe she would go there finally although she was reluctant to.
Seems many people have complicated feelings while confronting graduation. They often say, after entering society, they realize how happy they were when in university. The third friend, who is trying to find a decent job in Wuhan, was always sighing when we chatted yesterday. She told me the wage there is 1200 yuan a month, without providing meals and dormitory, which really stunned me. How could a college graduate live with so cruel conditons? She had planned to go to Shenzhen, but she is also not alone. Her boyfriend asked her to stay in Wuhan.
Friends in Shenzhen seldom complain, and they seem to live in contentment. I have an intention to find a part-time job there before I go to study this september. It depends, I am not so sure. If no unexpected events happened, I might go to Shenzhen. Hope I can be autarkical soon.
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- Reply snowflying
- sheena,your worrying,your caring ,your concerning is not only a personal question of yours or your friend's,it's existing widely on our present society,especially to a girl,the issue appears further more,further realistic,as if looks further serious.i am a woman with a hr job,more sensitive feeling than others perhaps.but being anxious or worrying about only is not used anymore.what's you(like the same as you)need do or must consider about the seeking a ideal job on future in society ,i think having at least third:first,clear the special advantage than other graduate students,such as your major,your feature on doing things,your education background,
even your character maybe become your great advantage.second,you must consider very clearly what a business or enterprise you most wanna enmerge into. sometimes,the begining of a new job affect one deeply.though you can choose exange another job when you feel dissatisfied,but the first step into society must be considered clearly.third,you and your girl friends must be faced,where you wanna settle and live in,whether can be together with your boyfriend (the future husband),this is a realistic queation.work and afection,job and family,to a girl is more and more important indeed.sometimes boys can lay dowm to something,but a girl maybe can't.perhaps my words is not right,only some personal sight,as a common passed woman.wish your future shining brightly .
- Reply linyingxia
- what you care about is just what's in my mind.even it's still early for me to enter the society.there are so many people affect our choice ,parents ,boyfriend,others'experiences,no matter fortune or suffering .facing this situation ,I may hesitate,too...i am easily contented,i think.
- Reply Sheena1208
- snowflying: sheena,your worrying,your caring ,your concerning is not only a personal question of yours or your friend's,it's existing widely on our present societI can't agree with you any more. To find a decent job, you must have your advantage. I've heard a girl from the other class of our department got a decent job in Dongguan, but she quitted. She was an excellent student, but she failed in the entrance examination for postgraduates. Maybe she aimed too high. She definitely would be admitted if she chose another university like Hunan University. Despite it, she also had more opportunities than others because employer really like excellent ones like her. Major is a big problem. English major is not popular in Hunan, but other majors may find a good job here. Boyfriends are also a bigger problem, they have deep affection towards each other. Although I have not go to Wuhan to achieve my postgraduate degree yet, I desire to graduate soon. Haha..kidding.. I will study harder..Hope I can find a decent job in the near future. Thanks for your wishes.
- Reply Sheena1208
- linyingxia: what you care about is just what's in my mind.even it's still early for me to enter the society.there are so many people affect our choice ,parents ,bHeihei, so good to be content. I am always the one who is content to my life. Everyone has his fortune, there is no point in having a green eye. Don't worry too much, just live your life to the fullest. In addition, study harder, heihei.
- Reply 2010jj
- As green hand or novices, they can't often be content with their work and living conditions. So some of them leave the position and are looking forward to finding the better chance to lead a life or explore the life they haven't met. Others are just complainning about the situation.
- Reply ritter
- I think, don't think too much about how much salary i can get as a graduate.Very little company will pay high salary to a student just graduate from college without any experience.Unless he or she is very excellent and quite suitable for the job.To learn more,keep ourself improving and make well relationship are very important in work.I think that all of us will get higher pay when we have enough experience and ability.So, don't care the first job's pay,just fight for the future.Road is bright but depend on people how to go.
- Reply snowflying
- Sheena1208: I can't agree with you any more. To find a decent job, you must have your advantage. I've heard a girl from the other class of our department got a deoh,sheena,our viewpoint are near same indeed.on our society,there is never lack of job and work,just lack the suitable ability students,in fact,one hand,more and more enterprises have more blank possision waiting for suitable persons,another side, more and more students seeking no ideal job .a contradiction.indeed.both sides all worried about this social phenomenon.so-called structural imbalance.so improving yourself from some detail work skilling,in order to fit the work demands.to tell my truth,english is a good major,but if your english is not enough super to skill any foreign things, english is a tool too,its advantage maybe turn a short.perhaps you wouldn't hear my these words,perhaps my words like this let you unhappy.but it is a fact indeed.so you need consider yourself earnestly.sheena.
- Reply JMZ
- Hi!sheena,don't worry more,many graduate will face this problem and must take into consideration.maybe we should think some question:what do i want to do?what can i do?what should i do?perhaps so,we are not so blind.improve skills. hope it is helpful for you.
- Reply Sheena1208
- 2010jj: As green hand or novices, they can't often be content with their work and living conditions. So some of them leave the position and are looking forwarTo some extent, the attitude towards the job depends on one's character. Just as you said, some friends change several jobs within a year, some think it is not easy to find a nice, maybe they can gain certain experience, then if they are skilled enough they will considering to seek a better job.
- Reply Sheena1208
- ritter: I think, don't think too much about how much salary i can get as a graduate.Very little company will pay high salary to a student just graduate from cYes, you are right. Even if you were given a job such as manager, as a college graduate, one could not be so sure he/she has the ability to do the job very well. So we'd better learn something at first and when the conditions are ripe, we could find a better job. Just as the saying goes we should love what we are doing, the harder we work, the more we gain. Heihei, we should believe life is sweet & the future is beautiful. :-)
- Reply Sheena1208
- snowflying: oh,sheena,our viewpoint are near same indeed.on our society,there is never lack of job and work,just lack the suitable ability students,in fact,one haNo no, I won't be unhappy, heihei. Good advice is harsh to the ear, let alone your speaking is not harsh enough.
As a person who has had the experience, I believe your advice is useful to me. I agree with you. Now we don't lack the employee, what we lack is excellent employee. I mentioned as an English major, I must have my advantages over others, or English is just a tool, so many people can know or speak a little. Heihei, I will keep learning all the time.
- Reply Sheena1208
- JMZ: Hi!sheena,don't worry more,many graduate will face this problem and must take into consideration.maybe we should think some question:what do i want toHeihei, thanks for your advice. College graduates really have great pressure, so many things to consider. As for me, I am not eager to find a long-time job. Someone advised me not to find a part-time job now, however, I want to have a try. It depends. I will be careful if I choose a part-time job.
- Reply JMZ
- Sheena1208: Heihei, thanks for your advice. College graduates really have great pressure, so many things to consider. As for me, I am not eager to find a long-timif you choose to work immediately after graduate.I think it is a good thing if you find a part-time job which is good and you like.you will learn more.not just knowledge.you can find part-time job with your friends and you can work together.
- Reply Sheena1208
- JMZ: if you choose to work immediately after graduate.I think it is a good thing if you find a part-time job which is good and you like.you will learn moreYeah, I hardly ever do part-time job and I desire to steel myself.
- Reply luketang1982
- don't worry !your english is very well,you can find a good job when you had graduated!
- Reply Sheena1208
- luketang1982: don't worry !your english is very well,you can find a good job when you had graduated! Thank you for your encouragement. Study harder and hope I can find a nice job. Heihei.
- Reply redapple2
- Sheena, could you tell me why you took the Graduate exam for futher study instead of finding a job after ending your college education? I am still in lingering, especially when you mention that your friends are under great pressure on job-hunting.
- Reply Sheena1208
- redapple2: Sheena, could you tell me why you took the Graduate exam for futher study instead of finding a job after ending your college education? I am still inThe reason I chose to take the examination for postgraduate was I didnot think I would get a decent job after graduating from Xiangnan University, which is a very common one in Hunan province. In addition, there are some other reasons related to my relationship. I also want to learn more, it could be a reason. If you can find a good job without the master degree, I think it is not necessary to become a master. If you desire to get the master degree, you can take it, but you must put your whole heart into preparing the examination. Wish you luck.
