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Yesterday, one of my former colleague friend gave me a phonecall. She told me that she was unhappy.
She married to her college boyfriend last year, and settled down in her husband's hometown, which was around 1500km distance from her hometown. Uasally, She has no time to visit her parents because the vacations are always too short for her. In addition, she has no close friends there. When her husband takes a business trip, she felt very lonely. So she choose to call the friends who live in her own hometown, but the phone bills was so expensive. She can't express herself freely. She wanna make new friends there, but she and those poeple seems have no enough time and energy to making new friends.
When she was in her home town, her boy friend asked her to marry him, and said he will try his best to make her happy. He promised they will do some business to build up a fortune, but today, everything seems doesn't go well. She said they have no enough money to live. Her husband works for his uncle, and have no weekends, no holiday. He wanna quit, but for fear of hunting his uncle's feelings. She said her life was totally a mess!
l don't know what to say. l know it's really diffcult for a girl to leave her family, and then go to a completely strange place to live. But if the man loves you wholeheartedly, please hold on. Maybe a few years later, everything will be okay.
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- Reply snowflying
- oh, poor girl. marriage is not a small thing to any girl indeed. especially she is so far from her parents. i don't want to say the true love is exceeded anything, i only know some realit we must face, whether man or woman. we are not saints, we have all sense and desire as any human. i think maybe the girl should talk with her husband and solve a better way, at least she should go the her hometown to visit her parents. to a new bride, she must miss her mum, this missing make her bad mood, maybe lead her unhappy..
- Reply sunnyv
- So sad. That is why we must think carefully before comitting ourselves into marriage.
The man side has nothing to lose because that is his hometown, he has his friends and life there, his family is there, he is used to that kind of low life.
The girl suffers everything, away from hometown, family, friends in a far away lonely place. Her precious young life is wasted away.
Looks like she would be stuck there hopeless and nothing would change or improve. The best thing to do now is for the girl to see if there are reasonable jobs for her husband in her hometown. Move to the girl's hometown. If he cannot move and want to live a stupid life there, the girl would have to do something about it.
This is kind of life is hard to repair and can hurt both sides. Hope they can find a good solution. Bless them.
- Reply indiangirl
- When at the young age, we seldom listen to family's advice, but trust the love can overcome any problems. When things go worse, regret for the decision he/she made is too late and we learn a lesson...
- Reply Catherine陈
- A busy bee has no time for sorrow . Don't you need to work ? We should arrange our own lives well . I think gradually you can adapt yourself to the life and never feel lonely , especially when you have a baby .
- Reply sunnyv
- Catherine陈: A busy bee has no time for sorrow . Don't you need to work ? We should arrange our own lives well . I think gradually you can adapt yourself to the liIs it really so easy? How to be busy in a sleepy town? Why should she settle for a lousy job? She deserves a good job. Adapt? We all go to the desert and adapt to life there, but is that smart? OMG, have a baby when we are not even sure about our own life? Really wish life is so simple.
- Reply Tange
- snowflying: oh, poor girl. marriage is not a small thing to any girl indeed. especially she is so far from her parents. i don't want to say the true love is exceehi snowflying , you made the relation of marriage and reality is clear:
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i don't want to say the true love is exceeded anything, i only know some realit we must face, whether man or woman. we are not saints, we have all sense and desire as any human.
- Reply Elva_1989
- This is life. Once married, one must try his best to adapt to the new life. Therefore, we should consider carefully before getting married, especially girls. I wish she a happy life in the near future.
- Reply Ebymas
- Once she has decided to marry , she should get ready for the loneliness ,it's the price for marrying so far away from hometown.
Wish she could find a way out,and love herself more.Then things maybe easier.
- Reply Jasmine-0913
- caveman: sometime we must suit the really liveYes, life is made of reality, we have face it.
- Reply Jasmine-0913
- Ebymas: Once she has decided to marry , she should get ready for the loneliness ,it's the price for marrying so far away from hometown.you are right, she could find some other ways to make herself happy~
Wish she could find a
- Reply Jasmine-0913
- Elva_1989: This is life. Once married, one must try his best to adapt to the new life. Therefore, we should consider carefully before getting married, especiallyPeople said that women always be afraid of marring a good-for-nothing husband, girls do needs to consider carefully before getting married.
- Reply Jasmine-0913
- Catherine陈: A busy bee has no time for sorrow . Don't you need to work ? We should arrange our own lives well . I think gradually you can adapt yourself to the liWork is just a part of life, not the whole life, when you finished work, you still have any spare time to miss parents, old friends, l think. Feeling lonely is a nature of human beings, in my opinon~
- Reply Jasmine-0913
- indiangirl: When at the young age, we seldom listen to family's advice, but trust the love can overcome any problems. When things go worse, regret for the decisioRight, life is full of lessons, we must pay for them.
- Reply Jasmine-0913
- sunnyv: So sad. That is why we must think carefully before comitting ourselves into marriage.Thank you so much, marriage is really a big thing. l also bless them
The man side has nothing to lose because that is his hometown,
- Reply Jasmine-0913
- snowflying: oh, poor girl. marriage is not a small thing to any girl indeed. especially she is so far from her parents. i don't want to say the true love is exceeYes, she also wanna move to her hometown, but her husband is the only child of his family. He can't, he has to take care of his family. so sad! They must find some other ways to solve this problem.~
- Reply Jasmine-0913
- sunnyv: Is it really so easy? How to be busy in a sleepy town? Why should she settle for a lousy job? She deserves a good job. Adapt? We all go to the desertOh. l am so agree with you!
- Reply Catherine陈
- sunnyv: Is it really so easy? How to be busy in a sleepy town? Why should she settle for a lousy job? She deserves a good job. Adapt? We all go to the desertYou are so different from me . Maybe my life is too simple ,compared with your life . But I feel very happy and fullfilled(can the word be used here ?) .Before having my baby , I don't care about my own life very much . But my mind has changed now . I am very satisfied such a busy life . And I cherish every moment when I stay with my son . It willn't be long before he studies and works far away from me. In a few years , I will have to rearrange my own life again .
- Reply sunnyv
- Catherine陈: You are so different from me . Maybe my life is too simple ,compared with your life . But I feel very happy and fullfilled(can the word be used here ?Seems you are an exception. Allow me to congratulate you on your happy life and do hope that you would have a wonderful life ahead. In fact, I always advocate a simple life.
