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There is a good news, and there is a bad news. Dear sunnyv, I hope you can be here, and give some advice to me, you are so intelligent, you are the only one who can help me.
The good news is that I have found the one I adored for so many years, but this person does not like me, and do not want to be contacted by me. It is really a bad news.
A good thing that I sent a letter to this person as what you said to me once before, never offend someone if you love them, yes, I think I write the letter successfully to this person, to make this person not so boring of me, but this person still does not reply to me.
How should I do? What rules should I obey? Even I can not be this perosn's lover, how can I be this person's friend? Becuase I want to talk to this person and have some stuff need to know from this person, as these stuff is precious and only this person know. These precious stuff is once the blog this person wrote, it is very important to me.
Sunnyv, you are so wisdom and sharp insighted, your help or advice may be bring me out of this bad situation. Thank you so much. Bless you with love for the road that you go.
Your honest friend freefu.
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- Reply sunnyv
- Hi Freefu. I can understand your frustrations and anxiety. Every man has once been rejected by girls and impressing another person is a challenge. However, every girl has a soft heart and you can win her heart if you have your way. Be sincere and truthful.
The problem seems that the girl don't know your qualities or positive side. She probably only think you are not handsome so you have nothing attractive for her. How wrong is that. Looks are not important for a man and looks don't last long anyway.
Perhaps, I can influence her to change her impression about you, but she has to know English. Some girls are really stiff and stubborn, so sometimes a third person can help open her mind. This may not work for you because some girls find it hard to talk in English and I don't know Chinese.
Some girls have told me what they want from boys and men and here are some of those things;
* Self Confidence. Build your self esteem and confidence. Self confidence and self esteem are very attractive qualities. Girls will fall head over heels for a guy that is confident in himself and what he can do. Do things that build your confidence in yourself like volunteering, learning a new skill, increasing your knowledge etc. In fact, you have already done this, so don't worry about this.
* Get to know her. Talk to her and listen to her. Ask her about her family and where she grew up, her home town, famous people she likes and what she likes to do for fun. Don’t be critical or rude about her answers: they are hers, not yours! Respect her ideas, her opinions, and her beliefs. Girls like it when you treat them like people. If you want girls to find you attractive, respecting them as people is a great place to start.
* Don’t try to act like anyone other than yourself either. Girls will notice you trying to hard and being all fake and they will not find that attractive. Acting like someone else? Sorry, poser. She’ll notice. Just be you and be happy about being you. Girls will find that attractive.
* Take care of yourself and your appearance. Don’t neglect personal hygiene or your clothes. Why would a girl like you if you didn’t even like yourself enough to take care of your body? Wash your hair and body regularly. Wear clothes that look clean and new. Make sure your teeth and visible features are pleasant. Don't worry too much about wearing brand name clothes. She'll notice a lot more if your clothes fit you well and are in colors that make you look great
* Don't go overboard, of course. Some gel in your hair is probably good, but it shouldn't look wet and be rock hard, you know?
* Be approachable. Don’t seem angry, upset, or otherwise unpleasant to talk to. If you seem like you’re mad at her every time you talk to her, why would she want to talk to you, much less date you? Smile, be friendly, and try to make yourself easy to talk to by, you know, talking. Seems you are already approachable now, so don't worry about this.
* Don’t be a creeper. Don’t stare at her and then avoid eye contact. Don’t hover around her and then never actually manage to say anything. Don’t stare at….certain parts of her anatomy (however tempting). Don’t make weird sexual advances if you don’t know her well and don’t be over anxious. Things like this will freak her out and definitely make you a lot less attractive.
Well, these are only some suggestions, but a lot depends on yourself. There must be a way to impress her and you can surely succeed because I know you are a resourceful and interesting person. Wish you the best, my friend.
- Reply moli
- I would like to give you some advice. If you like the girl, why not tell her what you think face to face? if she refuses you, but you still are willing to wait, give it a try.
- Reply freefu55
- Yeah, very good advice. Thank you dear moli so much.
moli: I would like to give you some advice. If you like the girl, why not tell her what you think face to face? if she refuses you, but you still are willin ...
- Reply freefu55
- Thank you so much. Very great lessons.
sunnyv: Hi Freefu. I can understand your frustrations and anxiety. Every man has once been rejected by girls and impressing another person is a challenge. How ...
- Reply Lizzieliu
- i think maybe you can figure out what she like and talk about that with her to open her mind first.And then while talking you can show your humor to her,everyone will be attracted by humor. you can have a try of what i say,and wish good luck to you~
- Reply A-C
- What I want to say is that you had better not convey a information of "tangling her". Frequent commuication really doesn't work. Maybe you can access her by a state of common friend instead of the pursuer.
- Reply feeling720
- if you are work with her, first make yourself better, such as your abilities, responsibility, upward mobility, unselfishness. you know the charm man is mostly appeared by working. second, you need to know her, what's her hobby? you also can talk with her friends to know more about her. it's better if you got her friends supports, the most important thing, you need find the common and make friend firstly, is she a single? if no, you need work hard., if yes, you have more opportunies.love maybe is feeling which some girls are depend on this. first leave a good impress at first, second make friend, go outside for dinner, see movie, travel some beautiful sights. when she feel unhappy, you can make her feel better, if you can do this, you have made a large progress. on the other hand, you need have a good attitude, if the result is not good, hope you can adjust your emotion. maybe your right person is waiting for you at next stop. best wishes and good luck.
