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For my understanding, one who could completely hold his or her life without depending on or being wavered by others totally enjoy the spiritual independence. It's easy to see that most successful men clearly know what they are doing and will do, and bravelly grape the opportunity and head for the future. Their internal hearts are abundant with rich experience got throught by themselves. They pay great attention to personal practice rather than replying on others. Respectful.
For me, I need to be more strict with myself becoming more spritually independent even if I am not a dependent person. Actually it was the situation happened this morning made me get such idea. As recently I stopped driving for a couple of days, I was hesitate to bring lunch from home because of being lazy to carry taking metro. But yesterday, my mum cooked more, so I decided to take today. I picked some dishes into my container. Considering hotness, I didn't put it into the refrigerator. To be frank, I thought of this matter before going to bed. But just the dependence on my mum offered me reluctance. This morning, I aksed my mum whether the meal was put into the refeigerator or not. My mum's response was quite unsatisfied. She said me that I should learn to get everything done and never count on others. It was understandable saying such words. I am not a kid anymore and have already been the social person. More things need to be faced in the future. It's the personal responsability.
I remembered when I was in colleage or studied in US. I was not beside my parents, but could led a good life. I mangaged my money, tidied my room well, cooked by myself. So free and controllable. I knew at that time, it was my own space. Really enjoyable and memorable. I love such life style because in my inner character indepencenc element exsist. However, after graduation and stepping into the society, I have been living with parents. I do appreciate them provide such good environment for me in big city without housing and money pressure even if I pursure for my own. But during the almost one and half years after working, I felt less independent dealing with household as take my mum's responsability as granted. Although parents won't scold considering my work pressure, I need to learn to change as a lady. It's inevitable to have my own family, essential to manage in the future. I should get improvement in different aspects no matter work but daily life triviality. Honestly my mum always teach me how to deal with a house and maintain a family well. She said a woman needed capability and pains rather than staying nothing to do waiting her husband. Reasonable.
As a matter of fact, I tried to be independent financially although parents never offered me fiance problem. I remebered right after stepping into the society, I kept the Credit Card which was used aborad. At that time, my parents had to pay. Actually quite adaptable at the beginning, I felt still using parents' money and gave burden to them. Then I gave up using this card and opened my own credit cards which could be used and paid flexiblely by ny own. I enjoyed such process making my own money and buying appropriately. Last week, I went shopping and bought a suit of clothes with 50% discount, finnally RMB 520 in total. When I got back home, my mum told me why I didn't ask for her shopping card to save my money. I wouldn't. I promise saving money gradually to enjoy myself and bring happiness to my family in future days. Life is the process of accumulation. My next consuming is to buy two original phones for my mum and dad as their birthday gifts in HK. I feel pleased to get something for them even being tolarant of myself.
The day will come soon with completely spiritual and financial independence. I will persistantly head for it with my own gradual improvement.
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Post comment Comment (7 replies)
- Reply rich
- life itself is a learning process. it is very true that it's never too late to learn. having strong spiritual strength or independence is one of our life goals to be obtained. many things are easier said than done.
- Reply Jessico
- rich: life itself is a learning process. it is very true that it's never too late to learn. having strong spiritual strength or independence is one of our lRight. Get down to the reality and practice
- Reply snowflying
- Jessico, talking idenpendence with your mum? maybe right, but i feel any kids always be a eternal kid before mum whether what old years we are. just in my holiday's visiting my mother, my mum said to me the words. but in yourself aspect, surely view this indenpendence with another attitude, in your future life,not only to your own family's member,but also your future husband. to a womam 's atatus, i agree with your mum's words.
- Reply Jessico
- snowflying: Jessico, talking idenpendence with your mum? maybe right, but i feel any kids always be a eternal kid before mum whether what old years we are. just iYes, Snow. For me, indepence is an important character to adpat to the society and meaningful. It's also a typical embodiment of capability
- Reply 异物
- "Spiritual and financial independence" is cool, but your independency could hurt your husband's feelings too.
- Reply Jessico
- 异物: "Spiritual and financial independence" is cool, but your independency could hurt your husband's feelings too.Actually, what I mean is to show my personal capability without depending on my parents. For my own family, I won't give pressure over my future husband because internally I am not aggressive. I need to find the balance. You idea also seems reasonable. Thank you
- Reply qinqinjennifer
- Wow, nice daughter.
I am in independent in Spiritual and financial when I graduated from university, and I am proud of myself.
