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I have been thinking of writing a blog about my father since read some articles from different net friends. While considering being lack of inspiration and time to recall most memories related to my father in a comprehensive and systematic way, therefore I didn't start clicking the keyboard until now. It was yesterday that one of my father's old friends visited him, which stimulated the chord in my heart.
Initially my sister made a appointment with me to accompany her to go to the Chou Tai Fook Jewelry store to maintain her broken golden necklace and choose another platinum bracelet in the shopping mall nearby. Right after work, I immediately drove home in order to wrap up the dinner fast and took enough time to enjoy the leisure moments with my sister. When I stepped into the living room, a familiar figure appeared in front of me. Accordingly a lot of positive and negative memories pushed into my head.
However, I put down all the thoughts and enjoyed the dinner first. From the dishes, I could see my parents spent time making such preparation. There were different seafood brought by my father's another friend in SZ, nutritious soup, vegetables and so on. Surely men couldn't live without wine. I finished the dinner ASAP and headed directly towards the shopping mall with my sister. Having idled for about 40 mins, I received a call from my mum to return home right away as they asked me to be the driver taking them to the entertaining and leisure center. I chose to wash feet, they took the SPA and massage. I remembered we got home around 12pm. After taking shower and getting everything down, it was close to 1am the other day. I shut the door and struggled to fall asleep. However, the voice of chating by my parents and the guest from the living room made me hard to peace my heart. I recalled my childhood, my father's rugged experiences and different social and family relations...All the thoughts lingered around my head, gradually......turn to the dream.
The guest is one of my father's old friends from my hometown. When I was a kid, my family condition was very propersous. At that time, my father was the head of water station, while the so-called uncle was the head of postal office in our town. As the reputed positions,they established deep friendship together with other govement officials. In my memory, my childhood was spent under sufficient material conditions without any concerns. Then because of the bureaucratic complication, most government offcials conducted in a corrupt way and then shifted to other areas, which caused the whole economy of the town become worse and worse. Therefore the unit my father worked was on the edge of bankrupt. Under such circustances, the great pressure was appeard obviously heading towards my father. On the one hand, he had to try his utmost to maintain the normal operation of the water station even if it was really hard, on the other hand, he needed to make efforts to earn more money for the family. However, the reality was cruel and opposite. During following almost five years until the end of my senior grade one, my father tried different opportunities to ease the bad economical situation when no one sent out hands to help, he overcame each difficulties under tolerance, however all failed. In the process, he quitted the job at the water station and began to search for other chances of making money. I heard my father had an experience dealing with a project with the uncle and other friends. Because of internal contradiction and improper advantages, finally left bad benifits to my father. Actually I could feel my father's pressure and pains, but he never exposed in front of us. He beared a lot by different previous dishonest friends. Nevertheless, he did believe kind-hearted people would pay off and constantly insisted on his path under the power of family responsbility.
With regard to all the failures, he made the conclusion that he was so sincere to friends and also as the result of the fate arrangement. Based on his persistance and hard-working, eventually God helped him find the right direction. When I was the senior grade two student, my father decided to search the opportunity in SZ. With one of my relatives' guidance, my father was engaged in the line of Project Costing. He said in the first whole month he seldom stepped out of the door and stayed day and night in front of the computer to research relevant knowledge. In order to save more expenditure, he seldom took the bus but walked different streets to get aquianted with the roads and understand the maket price of different project materials. Admittedly, no matter from my impression or others, my father was regarded as a very smart and flexible person. He always had fast understanding about things. Depending on his labour, he first joined into a small engineering company where almost staff were above undergradute degree. He learned a lot from them and built a friendly relationship. They called my father "Lao Wang" to show their respect. Gragually with the accumulation of time and experience, my father constantly got promotion with his capability. Now he has realized a very steady position in a very big enigeering company.
After I finished the College Entrance Examination, I packe with my mum to visit SZ. Also from that time, we almost had the idea of settling down here. Then we could get rid off all the fake masks and start our new life in this territory. The image has already become the reality. I successful completed my studies and also got the support from my family to go abroad. Besides, we have our own house now and enjoy our simple happiness. Enough. My father has tried his best and still doesn't stop his steps to realize some meaningful things. I appreciate the greatest man in my deep heart, forever. As a matter of fact, my father promised himself or our family to disconnect the relationship with most people from the hometown. I mean those who hurted my father. In respect to the uncle, my father also had the same idea. However, in recent months, my father heard that the uncle was really in a bad situation and had a serious illness. How big change. From a shining figure to a person without ability to support his family. Right now he had to borrow money to afford his daughter's education abroad. From I witnessed this time, the uncle totally changed his mind compared with before. He became less powerful and simple. That's the reason my father invited him this time to visit my family.
My father is such a kind-hearted and responsible person with strong principles and goals. I admire him of his way of treating people and conducting things. Sometimes I felt I really was the mirror of my father. I fully understand my father by witnessing all he did. Through different frustradtions and setbacks, finnally he attained the bank. So now in reference to my future road, I just need encouragment to face everthing as long as I keep the principle of no hurting others. I believe the bright sunlight will be shining there nearby.
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Post comment Comment (22 replies)
- Reply Shirley.Lin
- i admire your ability to write so many words to express your opinion.when i am full of feelings,i found wordless and helpless.I should study continously.
- Reply Jessico
- Shirley.Lin: i admire your ability to write so many words to express your opinion.when i am full of feelings,i found wordless and helpless.I should study continousTake your time and pay attention to the process of accumulation.
- Reply Jessico
- heai88: yeah, I admire as well, girl with beautiful appearance and writing talent .Thanks, friend. Well, each person has shining points.
- Reply bluephoebe
- i am deeply moved. You probably remember my story, so you understand how I feel about this. Your father reminded me of my past grandfather, kind-hearted and strong willed, no matter how many times to be knocked to the knees still managed to get up, and always loyal to the family. I'm glad that you are a Daddy's girl, it must be wonderful.
- Reply Jessico
- bluephoebe: i am deeply moved. You probably remember my story, so you understand how I feel about this. Your father reminded me of my past grandfather, kind-heartThanks, Phoebe. I am lucky to be his daughter. Althought he isn't the billinare as other rich bosses, he is successful as his willingness. Experiences teach everything no matter how hard to conqure. I am sure I have such strong charaters similar as him. When I wrote this blog and recalled the memories, I really felt touching and moving because I could fully touch my father's pains.
- Reply rich
- paternal love seems different from maternal love. fathers may not say a lot, but it doesn't mean they love you less. my dad has passed away, but his upright independent personality is still and will always be my heritage. now i'm a father myself; i feel being a dad is more of responsibilty, not just earning the bread but the well-being of the whole family.
- Reply snowflying
- Jessico, so glad to read your this blog, because from your telling, i seem feel your dear father's great personal character which has effected his daughters deeply. we always learn more from our parents, especially father, they learn us how to treat others and how to live a firm life, they always give us spiritual power. you are happy daughter!
- Reply Jamesonhao
- Good people deserve good fate, right? your father is great, one of millions who struggled in SZ, so many people failed but he made and survived maybe because your father always tends to help others. comparing to those indifferent and cold-hearted who don't even give hands to fallen old people, your father is great. be proud.
- Reply lchh
- The beauty you create from the shards of your father's icon is the way to truly honor him,best wishes to you and your family.
- Reply Jessico
- rayshine: You have a enviable family, and you write very wonderful.Thank you. I just expressed my true thoughts to save all the memories. Different families have different happiness.
- Reply Jessico
- rich: paternal love seems different from maternal love. fathers may not say a lot, but it doesn't mean they love you less. my dad has passed away, but his uTrue. In daily life, I really have more communication with my mum than my dad, while what my father did could deeply immerge into my heart in a understandable way. He shoulds most responsabilities of the family. In the process, his wills and spirit could influence the next generations
- Reply Jessico
- snowflying: Jessico, so glad to read your this blog, because from your telling, i seem feel your dear father's great personal character which has effected his dauYes, Snow. They are the greatest and enbowed us with upright characters. Although we don't mean to similate their paths, from their true guidence and instructions, we could be cultivated to good persons.
- Reply Jessico
- Jamesonhao: Good people deserve good fate, right? your father is great, one of millions who struggled in SZ, so many people failed but he made and survived maybeI also appreciate him to creat better life for us with his powerful and strong will. Right now, although I don't take all they created as granted, I still feel honored. He offers me good characters as well. In future life, I must be brave to pave my own way
- Reply Jessico
- lchh: The beauty you create from the shards of your father's icon is the way to truly honor him,best wishes to you and your family.Thank you. Beauty is just one tiny aspect, what's more important is the inner characters
- Reply puserzhou
- how real father he is who present before us, shock for your graceful writing when you have a shining shape ,I like you so much!in addition, each father should be the pride of their children, I think your father did, I will try my best to let my daughter have the same feeling with you as own a so honorific father
- Reply Jessico
- puserzhou: how real father he is who present before us, shock for your graceful writing when you have a shining shape ,I like you so much!in addition, each fatheThank you. I am sure you will be a good father as well. You daughter will also feel proud.
- Reply IMNONARCISSUS
- To his childen , Father is always great !
